brokenheart20 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Hey Everyone! I'm new here and having a hard time with a very recent break up. My boyfriend and I dated for 7 months and are both in college. This last month was not the best for us, we were just arguing a lot and bickering, there have been a lot of changes in both of our lives this summer and I think we just had a hard time adjusting. So long story short (for now) I was 100% committed to just working on things and not breaking up, I just know in my heart if we both worked on things we would be fine but my boyfriend kept saying "I don't know if we should stay together or not" "On one hand I think things good be great again for us, but another part of me is saying yea right we are just going to keep arguing and fighting." So these last couple of days I have exhausted myself trying to do anything and everything to get him to want to be with me and work on things.. I have tried saying every possible thing to convince him. I know I shouldn't be having to convince him to try and work on things but I just care about him so much and want to be with him so badly that I couldn't help myself :/ I can tell by his emotions that he still wants to be with me, I see it in his eyes and feel it in his hugs. he says things like "I already regret my decision" "I miss you everyday" "I want to be with you but i'm trying to make the right decision and not go off of my emotions" "you don't know for sure that things are going to get better" "I care about you more than anyone else" So when he says these things I say "then why are you leaving me?" he says " I just don't think right now us being together is the answer" Anyways I am going to try really hard to move on but it's so hard, I randomly cry throughout the day, when i'm out doing fun things I still have a pit in my stomach of longing for him and missing him I just don't know what to do, I have never had a break up like this and since he doesn't want to be with me I really can't do anything I feel so hopeless and helpless ..
Knoxpwns Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I sympathize with you heavily, I know how you feel right now. My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and I was in the same shoes as you. I gave it my everything. I put every bit of my heart and soul in, but you and I and many others found out the hard way that relationships are a two way street. I tried to pick of the pieces by myself, but you can't do it alone and have the relationship work. Not to upset but saying he already regrets it and he will miss you everyday is most likely him trying to deflect your anger, making it seem like he doesn't want this. She did the same to me, said she still cared so much and want you to be ok....but the reality I found is not that they care, but they want you to be ok to absolve themselves of blame and guilt for leaving. You seem to really care about your relationships, and for that I have much respect. I'm sorry I have little to offer in advice, but know at least one person is experiencing the same pain you are. You're not alone for the ride, but the good news you'll find here is we all survive in time.
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