moonshine3 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 So we broke up after a whirlwind romance that didn't last very long, but which impact hurt me as we were extremely good friends before and shared a wonderful friendship, and our friendship fizzled out with the relationship. Perhaps it's my fault for wanting someone whom I know is different from me enough to not be able to keep. He was the dumper; but he has felt very guilty about everything since he's the one initiating it all and the one to burn out and felt that he couldn't handle it. So we fell into 3 months of no contact. I was cut up about it, I know both of us have faults but I couldn't stop beating myself up, was very depressed and NC made me felt like I've not only lost a relationship but also a great friend who was there for me every time I asked. We went different states to pursue education, and I felt better in a different environment where I'm not constantly reminded of memories. However it still hurt that he seem to delete me out of his life and that we never talk anymore. Our mutual friends just called for a reunion party, and a lot of us are coming home just for this. I came home yesterday, and on the way he texted me something funny about the reunion. It was the first time of contact after so long and I was surprised but pleased. It was just a three-message convo (I didn't reply afterward). So I decided to attend the reunion, since he's no longer avoiding me. But I've heard that he's still feeling kinda guilty, and I'm also feeling a little awkward. I still do love him, but as we're not meeting each other every day anymore, I decided to let nature takes its course and not force myself to forget. I don't want to be over-friendly to him (like I was when we were good friends back then) at the reunion, or completely ignore him. How do I act cool, calm and collected, and what do I say (and NOT say)? I know I should act natural but if I don't go there with a mindset, I'll feel awkward and not being able to act properly. After the break, we had a farewell party with friends and I was SO awkward it made me hate myself and he was the one acting all natural. Please advise, thank you.
unexpectedlyhere Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I'm nowhere near being able to meet my ex in a social setting, but if I would, I would try to prepare things I am ready to say. For instance how you describe yourself and how you're doing. Practise a couple of concise sentences that don't ring false but don't beg too many other questions either. I also find that acknowledging the awkwardness is fine. Just say something like "I know it's awkward, but hey, I wouldn't have missed this reunion with all the gang for the world!" and then move the conversation on with something like "Did you hear about this and that person?" or any other "external" topic.
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