adelynn Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years now. In the beginning our relationship was the best I could ever ask for. Over the past 2 years our relationship has become a long-distance relationship due to the nature of our careers. The distance has been a major obstacle, but we do our best to see each other on his days off (4 days once a month). Communication is also an obstacle when he is away because of the hours he works in a day. We don't get a lot of time to talk. Every once in a while I to encourage him to have "guy time" on his days off seeing he doesn't get the opportunity to see his friends very often. It's hard because I would like to spend that time with him myself, but I feel he deserves it every once in a while. The problem has to do with those occasions where he spends his days off with his buddies.. it seems that they always have to go on a drinking bender and he drops off the face of the Earth for four days. I don't expect him to talk to me 24/7 on those days, but it would be nice for him to at least check in and not ignore me completely. He tells me that I need to be more understanding that he can't multitask and talk to me while he's out and about. It drives me mad not to hear from him for 4 days. We have been over this millions of times and he always says he'll do his best to at least touch base with me every once in a while. I am still waiting for that to happen.... Am I just overreacting?
thorsten flakne Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 How much longer is the relationship going to be long distance? If the time line isn't definite, I think you both should pull the plug. If there is a date for you two to end the LD, you are over-reacting. You would judge him as too needy if he didn't hang out with his buddies so let it go and wait for the day you'll be back together! Good luck. 1
mammasita Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Nope, you aren't over-reacting at all. My first thought is he's found a local side piece. It's very inconsiderate for him to drop off for four days at a time. There has to be a reason other than "drinking/hangin with his buddies".
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