Jane2011 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I don't claim I have to have both, I certainly don't. But life is short, why not be as happy as you can be? If that means enjoying the differences that both genders bring to the bedroom then why not? The only reason I can see not to is because your partner does not want that and out of respect to them you do not do it. Okay, that's fine, but let him have two forms of love too. From you and from another woman. If you become friends with the new woman, you might enjoy it.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I don't claim I have to have both, I certainly don't. But life is short, why not be as happy as you can be? If that means enjoying the differences that both genders bring to the bedroom then why not? The only reason I can see not to is because your partner does not want that and out of respect to them you do not do it. He's the one that should be worried, he's already half way to death! You're only 26, still plenty of time!
Author jodi_michael Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 He's the one that should be worried, he's already half way to death! You're only 26, still plenty of time! I keep him feeling young
kaylan Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I keep him feeling young That youth may come off as immaturity and give him reason to find a more mature woman his age who knows how to be monogamous and stay committed. I know I wouldnt stand for what youre proposing personally.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 That youth may come off as immaturity and give him reason to find a more mature woman his age who knows how to be monogamous and stay committed. I know I wouldnt stand for what youre proposing personally. You don't date a younger woman for the sake of equality in maturity, knowledge, experience...If he wanted a more mature and developed woman that's the choice he would have made way before pursuing a 20 year old in his 30's. He knows exactly why he chose her, and so far she's living up to the expectations just fine IMO 2
kaylan Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 That all said, she shouldnt whine if he ends up banging some hot competition. She asked for it. *shrugs*
Kizza Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 hmmmmm... Go to a sensual massage parlor, together. Do your lady thing whilst he watches. Let him join in if you/he wants. If what you want is a woman experience then this is the best way because your partner can rest assure that there will be no emotional bond created. That is the main problem I see here. You see , you don't want him to see the gender he is attracted to because there is that risk of emotional connection and so same goes for you. You are Bi, that risk is very real to him. Ditch the risk of emotional attraction and keep it strictly physical if you really need to explore is what I suggest. You are being entirely unfair saying you get to see women and he gets to see men! You are boxing him in. It is different for women as we are more attracted to both sexes where as it is not the same for men.
Author jodi_michael Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Hi, it's Michael here this time. Jodi showed me this thread and asked me to have a read. I must say I am relieved by the responses. Jodi had me believing that I was being unreasonable, it's nice to get some reinforcements so to speak. For the record I want Jodi to pursue her bisexuality. I am happy for her to do this alone or with me present. The only condition that I have ever placed on that is that I be allowed the same freedom (not bisexuality, but seeing others), I think that is reasonable, I am glad this forum agrees. Even if we went through with this the likelihood of me actually meeting up with another woman would be remote, I certainly wouldn't be actively pursuing them and I don't think I am the type of guy that will have them chasing after me. As I tried to explain to Jodi, just the fact that I would be allowed to would be enough, it would show that Jodi is willing to give me the freedom that I am willing to give her. I would never promise that I wouldn't act upon the new found freedom because who knows what the world will throw at me but I wouldn't be all of a sudden joining dating sites and spending my weekends in seedy bars. Jodi is reconsidering her position, she is pretty stubborn so I doubt she will change her mind and I believe that is really unfortunate. Her bisexuality is part of who she is and I know she is committed to me so I thought allowing her the freedom to explore that side once again would have been grabbed with both hands. Obviously she doesn't want it as much as she says she does. Thanks.
RonaldS Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Hey dude, what are you doing? You have the green light to go out and get some dick! It's every guy's dream to have his girl getting off with another woman while you go out and have some nice boy-on-boy fun, and you're going to pass?!? Dude!!! NSA dick! What guy doesn't want that?
bubbaganoosh Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 You must think your husband is really stupid. I think the guy is being reasonable with you and your being selfish and inconsiderate as the day is long. Your bi. You want to be with a woman with your husband permission and enjoy a sexual experience with her and in return your saying that you would give your husband permission to be with another man knowing full well that he's straight and that you know that he'll never jump in bed with a guy so what it boils down to is, you want to have your fun and he has to just grin and bare it. Your having sex with another person while married. It doesn't matter if it's another woman, it's still sex. Where's the fairness? My advice to you is save your money and buy one of those real life sex dolls and pull her out of the closet once in a while and have your tumble. To your husband. If I were you I would put the brakes on this whole scenario now because I got a bad feeling that she's going to find a woman and have her fling with or without your permission down the road with the kind of compromise she's giving you. The you'll really open up a can of worms.
sabre80 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 What I am not understanding is why are you considering letting things go open when he proposed what I see as a far safer compromise of doing the three some thing. At least in that case you both can be involved. So you are sharing rather than getting side action.
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