worst fking nightmare

[frederickkk]

So its 2:30am

 

cant sleep

 

have a restraining order

 

cant contact her

 

she never contacts me

 

how long will this go on for?

 

etc

 

im going to work my arse off tomorrow but nothing i do will change anything.

 

like, what is the fking point? she is never coming back.

 

and i will always fking love her.

[JustAReformedGirl]

How the heck did the restraining order happen?

 

Was she just really paranoid, and you were somewhat clingy?

 

Anyway...

 

How long has it been since you and (I'm assuming) your gf broke up?

 

If not much time has passed, you need to give yourself more time to deal with the emotions involved. Yes, work hard tomorrow, but when you're off the clock, give yourself time to mourn the loss of the relationship.

 

What were things like between you? What do you miss the most? Can you find any silver lining to your situation? Anything that wasn't worthwhile in the relationship, anything that will help you be a better person, once you've overcome this, and that will aid your future relationship(s) with other people, romantically or otherwise?

[frederickkk]

i knocked on her door after stone cold silence for 6 months. then she gave me mixed messages after that scenario.

 

2 hours after walking out of the courtroom. she calls me on her new number. sounds like an accident.

 

in relationship: had issues with me being friends with other women, couldn't go out with mates for a drink, unbelievable arguments, quarrels, barneys, over essentially nothing.

 

high maintenance.

 

been a year now.

 

we really really loved each other. thats what i miss. when we first met it was incredible but the relationship detoriated into some weird ****. no silver lining yet. i want her to lift that order and talk to me and resolve things.

 

i have a lot of work to do on myself. but have spent the past year depressed because of what has happened. if i cant have her, then what is the point in anything mentality.

[Renard99]

You ask how long will it go on for?

 

For as long as you let it.

 

Once again you ask a question but don't want to hear the answer. You've said that you only ever loved her and will never love another person as long as you live. There is your answer. By not letting her go, you're permanently going to be this way.

 

YES YES YES, I know, you can never let her go. There is no one else in the world better than her, I know.... you've said many, many times over the last year............

 

......... but until you stop this train of thought the answer to your question if 'forever'.

[jesse93]

i knocked on her door after stone cold silence for 6 months. then she gave me mixed messages after that scenario.

 

2 hours after walking out of the courtroom. she calls me on her new number. sounds like an accident.

 

in relationship: had issues with me being friends with other women, couldn't go out with mates for a drink, unbelievable arguments, quarrels, barneys, over essentially nothing.

 

high maintenance.

 

been a year now.

 

we really really loved each other. thats what i miss. when we first met it was incredible but the relationship detoriated into some weird ****. no silver lining yet. i want her to lift that order and talk to me and resolve things.

 

i have a lot of work to do on myself. but have spent the past year depressed because of what has happened. if i cant have her, then what is the point in anything mentality.

 

Maybe you should try talking to someone sometime man, it wouldn't hurt to see a counselor to get these feelings off your chest. You're holding onto something that will never come back I don't want to be the person to say that but I think at this point it won't happen, I think you just need to focus on yourself as hard as it may be, there will be a love better than her, way better than her I'm sure, but you will never know if you never let go.