lala07 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I went on a blind double date with my friend and her boyfriend. We all had a good time and were laughing a lot. At the end of the date the guy got my number and messaged me that he had a really nice time and would love to do it again. We texted about a few things on and off, like what are you up to, hows your day, etc. but never made actual plans. I know he's shy, but when should I give up hope of a second date? Thanks for any advice.
sdraw108 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I know he's shy, but when should I give up hope of a second date? After you ask him out on a date, and he refuses. 2
Author lala07 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Good point I guess.. It would just be nice to know he's interested. But he is shy and somewhat inexperienced with girls and dating.
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 At the end of the date the guy got my number and messaged me that he had a really nice time and would love to do it again. I know he's shy, but when should I give up hope of a second date? Doesn't seem shy to me - he got your number, he contacted you first, he said he wanted to go out again...What about this indicates shy to you? Shy guys don't do any of those things. If he hasn't asked you out on an actual date it's probably cause he's got other things going and can't be bothered.
Author lala07 Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 Perhaps I should clarify... He was nervous and shy on the date, didnt talk to me directly as much as I would have liked. There was a lot of group conversation, but that's what tends to happen on group dates. He didn't ask for my number in person, but he Facebook'd me about an hour later asking for my number and saying that he had a great time and would love to do it again sometime. I replied agreeing that I had a nice time and wanted to do it again. We texted a few times but that was about it. His friends have told me that he's very insecure about dating and nervous around girls... I guess I'm going to have to suck it up and be the aggressive one if I want to go out with him again.
Author lala07 Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 I guess what I'm wondering is, would he have mentioned going out again and asking for my number if he didn't mean it? What is an acceptable amount of time between first and second dates?
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I guess what I'm wondering is, would he have mentioned going out again and asking for my number if he didn't mean it? What is an acceptable amount of time between first and second dates? When you like a guy it's easy to start making excuses as to why they are not asking you out, for example he's busy, he's shy, he's in a coma, etc. However more often than not the underlying cause is the same - they are not very interested. You can probably ask him out the first time. However it's usually a losing strategy chasing after a man so if he doesn't follow up let him go for good.
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