megan123 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 For the record, this is my brothers FRIEND. NOT my brother... Some people miss the 'friend part.' Okay! This is what my brothers friend has done with me - He has called me beautiful, cute, down to earth, and kind - He has made me slow dance with him - He's gone out on a walk with me at 3:00 AM just because I wanted to - He's bought me french fries (lol, I offered to pay but he wouldn't let me ) - He's mentioned us hanging out, but never made plans - if I text him, he'll respond and seem happy and keep a convo going, but never texts first - He's asked me if I was interested in any guys (I might've said no... which was a lie... whoops) - He's carried me to bed, tucked me in, and told me, "wake me up if you need anything. - He's told me, "Wake me up if you wanna hang out once your brother goes to sleep" - We kissed. He was my first kiss and I dunno how it happened we just kinda got into this almost friends-with-benefits but with only kissing. He's never tried anything sexual past kissing, but I'm worried that maybe he doesn't have feelings he just likes to kiss me. - We AGREED to not tell my bro because he’s way too protective and would legit get arrested for aggravated assault after what my brother would do to him if he found out. I'm not sure if he likes more or not though. I think he's a bit of a player, so he might just be really good at knowing what to say. Like I said, he never made plans to hang out (despite mentioning it) and he also never texts me first. But I dont know if he's not interested or if he just doesn't want to go farther because of if my brother finds out. What should my next move be? I don't know what to do with him. Ask what he feels for me? Make sure he knows I have feelings for him (though it should be pretty obvious I have feelings for him)?
white Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 He's a player alright. Your first move is to tell your brother. I was put into this exact situation with my sister many years ago when she was a mid-teen and we were still a family living together. They didn't tell me, it emerged slowly. I was enraged. My friend had been coming over and cosying up to my sister behind my back, and to boot, he was an ugly perverted mother****er who I'd have pitied any woman for being involved with let alone my sister. Underhanded tricks like this, with inappropriately young girls who didn't know better, were the only way he could succeed - abusing my trust and friendship. We had a major falling out, my old man liked it even less than me, and my relationship with my sister changed forever for the worse. So you tell your brother, and your family, and if they don't like it you listen to them because they know more than you do and they're your family and have your best interests at heart. If they OK it then go ahead and tell him you want more. If they wig out, you best back off and go find a man the proper way, on your own, like an adult, instead of allowing your brothers friends to creep around you, his sister, keeping secrets. 1
darkmoon Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) you are being set up for secret sex, I do not see a secure situation here your relationship is already bad, I quote you..... - He's mentioned us hanging out, but never made plans Edited August 5, 2013 by darkmoon
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