austingirl Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Had a first date with a guy last night. I think it went well. Some people thought I was being a little emasculating, but I don't think I was that bad. - I paid for my portion of dinner which was like 15 bucks, but he paid for our drinks which was like 40 bucks, and our game (we played golf) which was 60 bucks. I felt bad and offer to pay for my food. - I asked him on the way to get his car if he'd like to hang out again, and he said yes but we didn't made definite plans. - He kept looking at me. But I guess I am still insecure. He did go on his online profile today so meh :/. But before realizing his online activity, my friends told me to just text him a thank you text. So, I was like "Hey, thanks for a good time last night, I hope you're having a relaxing sunday". He replied with, "Thanks! I had a good time too, hope you have a great day". Hope you have a great day?! LOL, I know I am pretty much reading into this too much. I mean yes, good he replied...but is this him just being nice, or should I write this off as hes not interested?
megan123 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 haha, I think you're reading into it a *little* too much. I think he meant it just as 'have a good day,' and that was it. Don't think too much of it. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have replied. Hope things work out don't let you're insecurities ruin things (been there, done that, got the t-shirt - it's nothing special)
hoping2heal Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 That sounded pretty dismissive in a polite way. The fact that he followed up with "have a great day" VS. "Would you like to go out again?" really says it all. He's being a gentleman about it, but the text combined with the fact that he was online but didn't bother to make contact says he's not interested imo. 3
InsaneTrombone Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Had a first date with a guy last night. I think it went well. Some people thought I was being a little emasculating, but I don't think I was that bad. - I paid for my portion of dinner which was like 15 bucks, but he paid for our drinks which was like 40 bucks, and our game (we played golf) which was 60 bucks. I felt bad and offer to pay for my food. - I asked him on the way to get his car if he'd like to hang out again, and he said yes but we didn't made definite plans. - He kept looking at me. But I guess I am still insecure. He did go on his online profile today so meh :/. But before realizing his online activity, my friends told me to just text him a thank you text. So, I was like "Hey, thanks for a good time last night, I hope you're having a relaxing sunday". He replied with, "Thanks! I had a good time too, hope you have a great day". Hope you have a great day?! LOL, I know I am pretty much reading into this too much. I mean yes, good he replied...but is this him just being nice, or should I write this off as hes not interested? It hasn't even been two days since the date. Give him a week or two before writing him off, and in the meantime continue looking for other dates. 2
JustAReformedGirl Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Had a first date with a guy last night. I think it went well. Some people thought I was being a little emasculating, but I don't think I was that bad. - I paid for my portion of dinner which was like 15 bucks, but he paid for our drinks which was like 40 bucks, and our game (we played golf) which was 60 bucks. I felt bad and offer to pay for my food. - I asked him on the way to get his car if he'd like to hang out again, and he said yes but we didn't made definite plans. - He kept looking at me. But I guess I am still insecure. He did go on his online profile today so meh :/. But before realizing his online activity, my friends told me to just text him a thank you text. So, I was like "Hey, thanks for a good time last night, I hope you're having a relaxing sunday". He replied with, "Thanks! I had a good time too, hope you have a great day". Hope you have a great day?! LOL, I know I am pretty much reading into this too much. I mean yes, good he replied...but is this him just being nice, or should I write this off as hes not interested? I'd say only time will tell. He might be playing it cool, afraid to pursue a second date too quickly. Maybe he had a good time, but you're not what he's looking for, or maybe he's not sure what to think, just yet. You could be direct, and tell him exactly what you're thinking...or you can play the waiting game. Of course, you can also casually date other guys, in the meantime. There's nothing saying you have to wait around for his answer as life passes you by. Most of all, have fun. Try not too worry too much, and I'm sure things will work out-whether with him, or someone else.
EJ787 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 That sounded pretty dismissive in a polite way. The fact that he followed up with "have a great day" VS. "Would you like to go out again?" really says it all. He's being a gentleman about it, but the text combined with the fact that he was online but didn't bother to make contact says he's not interested imo. I'm with Hoping 2 Heal... I think he probably is dismissing you nicely, every time I've gone on a date with a guy who was into it, he made plans or indicated a next time really soon... Then I dated a guy I was super into, who was not super into me and all of our conversations sort of went this way... politely dismissive... Give it a few more days, but don't be surprised and/or hurt if he doesn't ask you out again or doesn't reach out for a week or more... 1
BluEyeL Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Yes, in my own experience, men who replied but didn't ask me out again, and very soon, were not interested. Wait a week, but that's my guess.
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