xpaperxcutx Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 So I just broke up with the bf over text. The final straw was him accusing me of hating his family when I have done nothing of the sort. The conversation began with his mom and how she was working long hours and being treated badly at work. I expressed my condolences and brought up the remark of his family previously taking his nephews to disneyland. He started giving me an attitude and told me I was being a " wise ass" because he thought I was dissing his family for not managing their finances well. Understand that his nephew has autism and because of an incident at school where the teachers encouraged to go to Disneyland, the nephew started throwing fits at home and want his family to take him to Florida. So, the family had taken out a loan, along with the financial situation they're currently in, the family is barely making it by. I never rubbed it in his face and neither did I say I hated his family. I had tried, n fact just recently,to help him apply for low-income housing for his brother-in-law's family. So it was a slap in the face to be thrown back that I was a bitch and how much i hated his family. I told him if that was the kind of attitude I get for even being helpful, then I swore I would never help him again. I deserve better than being called a bitch for being caring.
acrosstheuniverse Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Family sh*t is really tough. I was extremely close to my ex-bf's family for our two years of dating and living together, spent the holidays together, went out to visit them where they lived abroad, spoke to them on the phone when they called the house and spent lots of time with them when they were in the country. As soon as there was the hint of a split between us a text got misinterpreted (they thought I was being disrespectful about his cousin when I SO wasn't and had spent two years driving my ex back and forth to his family's houses) they cut me off, froze me out. Seeing that they didn't approve anymore, my approval-seeking ex left me. And that's the sign of a guy who will always put his blood family over the relationship he has willingly chosen. Sorry but he sounds like an ass. Obviously only have your side of the story but when you've supported someone and helped out their family for a while only to have one comment misread and taken out on you, it bloody stings. If he really loved you, surely he'd have given you the benefit of the doubt and assumed you meant no harm rather than assumed you were dissing his family?
newmoon Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I used to think breaking up via text was ridiculous and something teens did, not grown adults. UNTIL... I sent a text that ended the relationship, and i'm well out of my teens :-)
Toddbt12y1 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Yeah...you deserve much better. If a man..cannot appreciate what good his g/f is doing for him...he doesn't deserve her. His big loss.
shortee Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 You need to stay away from this guy. Quite honestly, you are being stupid. He has besen physically and verbally abusive to you and you blame yourself. Stop being a pathetic victim and get a restraining order against him. He beat you with a bottle. You were stupid to stay with him.
Recommended Posts