Does taking it slow improve a relationship?

[hoolababe]

After being in a few relationships where things have move pretty quickly, and not getting to know the man really, I've now met a man I would really like to get to know. I don't want to rush things and would like to take it slow and wait till the time is right. I think he's quite inexperienced and he doesn't seem to want to rush things either. In fact after 7 months of knowing each other we still haven't done more than non verbal flirting! We haven't been on any exclusive dates yet as we normally meet up in a group once a week. We both have busy lives (we both work shifts) and live an hour apart so getting together is a problem. So far he seems to be like me and going with the flow!

He's shown more interest since we had a disagreement, now cleared up, I apologized for miss understanding a text message.

[soccerrprp]

I think that taking it slower to your previous relationships that seemed to have grown wrong is a good idea. Generally, taking it slow (different for different people) should be a plus and not a negative unless the guy is impatient and seeking sex in the first place.

 

But, please, let there be clear communication to what that means. As I said earlier, taking it slow can be and is relative for different people.

[MrCastle]

I don't think speed accounts for anything in terms of how long a relationship will last.

 

If you move quickly, that doesn't automatically mean the relationship is doomed to crash and burn, it just means you moved quickly.

 

Moving quick can be a sign of lust, in which case it can end sooner rather than later, but there are also cases of people moving quickly from the get go and having it work out in the end.

 

I think when genuine, mutual chemistry is there, it doesn't matter how fast or slow you go.

[sdraw108]

Just don't take it so slow that nothing ever happens. 7 months is a long time to have not gone on a one-on-one date.

Edited August 5, 2013 by sdraw108