HotAndCold Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 (edited) Trying to keep this simple. Met girl on OLD. We casually went on 5-6 dates over a month or so, did things like holding hands in public, hugging, making out, normal stuff people do when their attracted to eachother. She jumped my bones once and things almost led to sex. Things I felt were going pretty well. Fast forward another month and it's almost the complete opposite. Says shes got some difficult stuff currently going on in her life and doesn't know what she wants. Has stated she likes me and enjoys seeing me and wants to continue doing so, but she never initiates anything. I've been trying to play everything cool and distance myself so she doesn't think I'm needy or too into her, but its difficult on some days. She's been receptive in the past when I've asked her out. Never flaked and only had an excuse she had plans already the last time I asked her out, so I haven't gone and asked her out again since, couple that with the fact we're in this 'cold' state of communication, and I've been hesitant to bother asking again. (Run on sentence FTW) Where do I go from here? I like the girl and we have a lot in common. I figure I have 4 options. 1. Keep my cool, not initiate anything with her and see if she comes to me. 2. Ask her out again ASAP 3. Combination of 1 & 2, wait another 2-3 weeks and if I don't hear anything, ask her out 4. Forget about her entirely. Any advice is appreciated. Edited August 4, 2013 by HotAndCold
WayToRomance Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Hi HotAndCold You could be really honest with her and tell her how you feel. You could tell her you really like her and that you would like to know where you stand with her. Or you could play it cool and wait for her to contact you again. Good luck! WayToRomance
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Says shes got some difficult stuff currently going on in her life and doesn't know what she wants. = Not very interested she never initiates anything. = Not very interested had an excuse she had plans already the last time I asked her out = Not very interested You best bet is answer number 4, let her go, forget her number, don't contact her, because she's simply not very interested in you.
Author HotAndCold Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 Hi HotAndCold You could be really honest with her and tell her how you feel. You could tell her you really like her and that you would like to know where you stand with her. Or you could play it cool and wait for her to contact you again. Good luck! WayToRomance I've done the bold already and just got a response of 'I like you too and like seeing you, but I've got some **** going on in my life right now and I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship' Not verbatim but that's what I got out of it. I'm not trying to wife her or even try locking her down to become my GF at the moment, I would just like to continue seeing her and talking to her and seeing what happens. But of course I do have some feelings there already. I've found myself sitting between a rock and a hard place.
Author HotAndCold Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 You best bet is answer number 4, let her go, forget her number, don't contact her, because she's simply not very interested in you. Yeah that's what I'm feeling now, just find it odd it took so long. I figure if she wanted to stop talking to me completely, she would have by now, which she hasn't. She's continued to barely stay around in one way or another.
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Yeah that's what I'm feeling now, just find it odd it took so long. I figure if she wanted to stop talking to me completely, she would have by now, which she hasn't. She's continued to barely stay around in one way or another. She's back-burning you until she finds someone to occupy her attention full time. Do yourself a favor and forget about her. Any more time spent on her will be a waste.
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