Mcscooter Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 It's been a month since she broke up with me. She did it over a text, so I was pretty disappointed. She pretty much told me, that she doesn't see us together, she doesn't know what Love really is because I was her first. It all started when she met new friends and started drinking. It's sad because I didn't drink because she didn't like it, but she went behind my back and drank without even telling me, until the next day. Anyways she said a lot of things of why she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She wants to try other guys, like she straight up told me she wanted to try flirting. As mad as I was, I understood because I was once like that. Also that she was honest. Whatever she wants to do. call it a Phase, GIGS, or she fell out of love. I don't know which, but i'm not controlling and if she wants to be free, than i'll let her go. Life's easier when you don't care. I could go on and on about our relationship, but the main things are we've been together for 3 years, i'm in the military, so I understand she has a hard time not seeing me. I knew the relationship was going down because she stopped putting effort in it, so i stopped too because it wasn't fair to me. she broke up with me before our 3 year anniversary. I got her a Lovebook it's cute, (check it out sometimes). I gave it to her sister so she can give it to her because i'm not home. During the breakup call I tell her, that her sister has the gift. She said she'll send it back, but I told her no. Just keep it. 30 minutes later I get a text from her sister saying she cried when she read the book. I didn't want to respond to it. Her little sister said she's going to regret leaving me. She also said "just let her fall, she needs to learn". A couple days after the break up. I get a closure from her, she said she's happy. she could finally go out and drink and hook up with other guy without feeling guilty. Her friends will ask me how I feel about the breakup. I tell them she's a good independent person, I wouldn't say strong. she's easily influence. I put her name in good words though. I post this thread and i'm just asking for advice. How do you guys feel about my situation, what would you do. I'm asking for opinions and your all free to judge and ask questions. Thanks. Btw apparently she changed a lot since we broke up. She dresses more "open" she also has a very cocky attitude now. One of my friends told me. She wasn't the girl you fell in love with. I remain NC with her since the closure. I'm also better with the healing. It doesn't hurt imaging her with another guy as much as it use to. I also didn't cry when she broke up with me.
Virgil876 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 You sound like me. I was with my girlfriend for 3.5 years, she broke up with me a bit more than a week ago, saying she "doesn't love me anymore", "I've changed", "I just need some time alone" & "It's not you, it's me". I'm surprised at myself that I'm not too upset with all of it, maybe because I felt the last 8-9 months of our relationship seems to be a bit stagnant, fell into a routine and then I have a feeling that she didn't like my living situation with a very small room but lots of things, I also don't think she wants to date other guys either but that's all I know of. I did cry after we broke up, but in the end, I'm not that upset...
Author Mcscooter Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 You sound like me. I was with my girlfriend for 3.5 years, she broke up with me a bit more than a week ago, saying she "doesn't love me anymore", "I've changed", "I just need some time alone" & "It's not you, it's me". I'm surprised at myself that I'm not too upset with all of it, maybe because I felt the last 8-9 months of our relationship seems to be a bit stagnant, fell into a routine and then I have a feeling that she didn't like my living situation with a very small room but lots of things, I also don't think she wants to date other guys either but that's all I know of. I did cry after we broke up, but in the end, I'm not that upset... Did you ever feel the need to want her back?
Virgil876 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Did you ever feel the need to want her back? A little bit because those lingering feelings are still around. I guess my thoughts are along the lines of " it'd be nice to have that again", but it did turn a bit stale... also I know she thought it was more of a fairy tale, like I was going to take her away from this place to somewhere better but in reality things need time and put into perspective. I sad that things turned out how they did, but I do believe in the end it'd be for the greater good. 1
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