whatwhit Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Hey guys! So last night I went on a first date with a guy I met through pof. However, as always I am a naturally anxious person, so I was going to see if y'all thought this date went well. I know you guys weren't there so you won't know 100% but any feedback is good feedback. So we met at topgolf which is this really fun/ nice place here in town. Get to shoot golf balls at targets, and they have a really nice bar inside etc etc. So he gets there I am a little early. We sit and chat for a bit, have a few drinks.While waiting for our game to be set up. It seemed fine lots of laughing, and whatnot didn't feel awkward. No hints of anyone wanting to play the "omg my friend has a emergency gotta go" card quite yet. Then we start playing golf; we had a little friendly competition. That is where I felt like it was beginning to feel a little awkward. Not talking as much, but not to the point to where it wasnt enjoyable anymore. We got a little bit more touchy at the end of the game. I was wanting to go downtown afterwards, he didn't seem too into it, but we did opt to go to another bar across the street. We didn't drink just chatted a little bit. He was looking at me ALOT the whole night. Maybe to the point of staring but yeah ALOT I remember keep saying why do you keep looking at me like lol. He states, ok I am ready to go it was pretty much midnight so I understand that it as late but it didnt kind of catch me off guard. We walk back to my car he puts his arm around me for a second. I asked him if he wants to hang out again while driving back to get to his car, and he said yes but we didn't make any plans. The good bye was a long hug, and I went in for a kiss that wasn't even a kiss like a half peck if you can even imagine that. I joke, what was that?? And he was like you want another one? So I walk over there he places his hands on my face, and we have a better one. I guess I am insecure because one what if he didn't want to kiss which is why it was like a half kiss, two hes been on his online profile today, and three he hasn't texted since then like thank you for coming out or whatever. He did pay for my drinks/game. I paid for the food or it would of ended up him paying for a 150 dollar date. What do you guys think?
curlygirl40 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I was wanting to go downtown afterwards, he didn't seem too into it, but we did opt to go to another bar across the street. He states, ok I am ready to go it was pretty much midnight so I understand that it as late I asked him if he wants to hang out again while driving back to get to his car, and he said yes but we didn't make any plans. The good bye was a long hug, and I went in for a kiss And he was like you want another one? So I walk over there he places his hands on my face, and we have a better one. he's been on his online profile today, and he hasn't texted since then like thank you for coming out or whatever. What do you guys think? For one, I would never date a guy that didn't go downtown. LOL Sorry, couldn't help myself. Anyway, unfortunately I think the signs here are not in your favor but it's really hard to say. You suggested meeting again, you went in for the kiss, you walked to him for another kiss Unfortunately you'll just have to wait it out. If he likes you and wants to see you again, you will know. I wouldn't contact him though let him make the next move. You pretty much put yourself out there and it's his job to make the next move, imo Best of luck! 3
sdraw108 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Some guys are into "dating rules" and have this idea that you shouldn't text a girl until X amount of time has passed since the first date. Maybe he is one of those. On balance it seems to me that he's not interested, but you never know. 1
Lansing Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Whose idea was the golf thing? Sounds like a fun date but I would keep stuff like that for like dates 3 and beyond. I personally would prefer just a drink or a coffee to start out, not spend HOURS with a person who I just met (although, I have had coffee dates that did go 2 hours). Anyway, if I were you I would leave it to him to contact you again. If he is interested he will be in touch. BTW, Did you actually say to him "why are you looking at me" or were you just thinking it?
Author whatwhit Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Ha yeah I did but not in the way you think I said it. It was like in a jokingly, flirty matter...Why do guys do that for anyways .... hopefully it was a good thing. The date was a first date. The night prior he wanted me to go to his place to hang out, but I wasn't feeling well and said no. So he said that we should hang out at the pool the next day. I am not ready to show my bikini body yet lol so I told him we should have drinks at night. Then he asked if I ever been to place he took me to and I said I loved that place..and he was like alright then thats where we will go.
Lansing Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Guy asks you to hang out at his place on a first date?? Geez... Wonder what he is looking for... 1
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 The date was a first date. The night prior he wanted me to go to his place to hang out Yup, that one is very hard to read..
aussietigerwolf Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 yeah... it doesn't seem hard to guess what he was after.
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