DarkenedSky Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Sounds pretty straight cut, right? Let me get into the details so someone can give me some advice. She and I had been talking for about a month online, and she lives on another island so I can't just pick up and visit her willy nilly (sadly). During the time we were talking, I knew she wasn't ready for a relationship but on the 12th she said she really liked me and was thinking of going back on that. Before that, however, she was in a relationship that she really did seem to like and maybe is still healing from it (not quite sure). So, on the 12th we made it semi official and started talking about me coming there to visit her, which is where I am right now. She's 20, I'm 23. That said, our first meeting was a little awkward for the first few hours until my hotel room was ready. Once inside, we plunked down and watched an episode of Game of Thrones and then she had to go home for lunch and to do some stuff. Our parting hug became, well, fairly intimate and she texted me back saying she can't and shouldn't have let it go that far. She says that everything feels wrong, even though just the night before she said that she was only with me because she really did like me. She also admits to being a little flighty, so addressing this with her is a little difficult. That said, I was able to get her to come out again later and we watched a horror movie, she said she was tired afterwards so we kinda just snuggled together which led to her trying to tease me and get me hard, and in turn with me teasing her back she started to go at it herself. One thing leads to another. Afterwards, she says it's better I don't get attached to her, because she doesn't feel we're compatible and that it feels wrong, and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship. I ask her to stop overthinking it, and she says there's nothing to think about anymore, so in turn I ask that she just let us be who we are and let things happen to which she kind of agrees to. After that, more things happen since she keeps not wanting to go home even though it's in the AM. Now I'm sitting here in my room waiting for her to come back, she just texted saying she'll let me know when she's out of the shower. Chances are kinda high we'll do it again but should I? What's your thoughts on the whole thing?
Lansing Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 What the heck? First date and you are spending it in your hotel room after going to visit her??? Why not take her out on a date? Like go for a coffee, go for dinner, go for a walk? Don't spend all of the time in your hotel room watching TV. She probably thinks you just want sex... and maybe you do?" 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 What the heck? First date and you are spending it in your hotel room after going to visit her??? Why not take her out on a date? Like go for a coffee, go for dinner, go for a walk? Don't spend all of the time in your hotel room watching TV. She probably thinks you just want sex... and maybe you do?" This is exactly what came to mind for me, too. Go out and DO something with the girl!
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