dennisguy Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Hey guys, I need advice. I’m a gay guy in my late twenties pretty handsome and in a way pretty hot and I have been seeing a guy for about a month now who is actually quite a few years older than I am but that’s not the issue. I know 1 month is a very short period of time but he seems like the kind of guy who is looking for something more than just a fling which is what I’d like too. I have also mentioned it to him that I do not date multiple people at the same time (I know some people do, and I have no clue if he dos that or not, he didn’t say).We have been meeting once a week (obviously he has lots of friends whom he entertains at home and stuff like that. I never met any of them btw). Usually we meet on Fridays cause he’s always having people over on weekends. He seems to be into me and everything is great when we’re together, we have fun and in a way we have been getting kinda closer and he hugs and kisses me when we we’re hanging out, watching tv as well as when we say goodbye but during the week he never calls or texts unless I text him first. Sometimes it takes him way too long to respond to a text message. Now I’m not the kind of guy that gets all dramatic and bombards people with questions but in this case in a way I do want to know where this is all headed before I get too close to him, what should do? I know it’s only been a month but should I ask him about it? Do you think that might scare him off? I’m confused. I appreciate the help guys.
Philosoraptor Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 What's his schedule during the week? Also, sounds like he has quite a big social life with all of the people he entertains. If it's not that serious yet you may just be slipping through the cracks.
Author dennisguy Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) He always seems to be busy. Today he said that this Friday he forgot he has plans with an old friend which means he can't meet me. So this kind of tops it up I guess. And again I don't mind that he does have friends and he entertains them but I mean he would make time if he wanted just like he does for his friends right>? Although we met like a month ago but it seemed like we were getting closer... Edited August 5, 2013 by dennisguy
violetsareviolet Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 it's only been a month...I wouldn't stress too much. I realize it's tough being on unstable ground as you don't know his emotional investment to you, while you are stuck thinking your own thoughts while you wait on the side. It is very frustrating. I think by the 1.5-2 month mark any couple should have already spoken about what each other thought of things so far, comfort levels and if it was worth continuing to see where things went into the future. Having this talk only after 2-3 weeks would most probably come off as needy. if that person can't hold this type of conversation without deflecting or getting uncomfortable, then maybe look to parting ways...as it will only get worse from there. and hopefully when they do open up, you will realize it's all good.
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