romanticisingme Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 There's this guy (not exactly dating) I've been having fights and then making up with. For some reason, we keep getting under each other's skin and having rows. But we always make up. Is this a love/hate relationship? How do love/hate relationships arise?
Author romanticisingme Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 *Bump.* Anyone has any insight?
veggirl Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Sounds frustrating and dramatic, why exactly are you staying in a situation where you fight so much with someone? How often do you "break up to make up"? What do you fight about? (Let me guess, "stupid small stuff"). Why not just find someone you don't fight with..?
Ire3 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 You see very attractive aspects in each other, but also very annoying aspects in each other, which causes this tug of war between love and hate. It sounds overly dramatic and unenjoyable to me, but you both may get charged up and renewed by these fallouts and make ups.
Author romanticisingme Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 Sounds frustrating and dramatic, why exactly are you staying in a situation where you fight so much with someone? How often do you "break up to make up"? What do you fight about? (Let me guess, "stupid small stuff"). Why not just find someone you don't fight with..? We aren't dating. We're good friends in the same social circle. I don't even remember what we fight about now. Different styles of handling things that arise in our social circle, things like that. Telling or not telling someone something. You see very attractive aspects in each other, but also very annoying aspects in each other, which causes this tug of war between love and hate. It sounds overly dramatic and unenjoyable to me, but you both may get charged up and renewed by these fallouts and make ups. I don't enjoy this tug of war. Sometimes I wish he would disappear. Or maybe we try to be civil with each other to avoid disrupting the dynamics.
Ire3 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 If you're just friends (or see each other in group situations), maybe you could ignore him, or give him less attention, at least. Let the things he says slide by you. It sounds like he really isn't worth the bother of getting so upset?
Author romanticisingme Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 If you're just friends (or see each other in group situations), maybe you could ignore him, or give him less attention, at least. Let the things he says slide by you. It sounds like he really isn't worth the bother of getting so upset? I don't completely ignore him but engage him less or listen less. But I think it's making him annoyed that I've become "different." Not sure whether he acts up because of that.
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