cottoncandy3 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I've been in a relationship with him for 2 years, all long distance. At first, we were great together. The distance didn't even touch us. We planned visits all of the time. We even decided that I'd visit for a 2 month period to just spend time together. It was awesome. However, I ended up losing my job and became in a bad situation financially. He suggested I come stay with him to test out the waters. Look for a new job. If we worked and I found one, I was going to stay. We were both really excited for this. Maybe not ready to "move in" but it was just a test run. And I could go home at any time. But he became frustrated. I was taking too long. And to be fair, I was. Out of financial fear. Not anything to do with my feelings. We cared for each other deeply. Maybe even loved at one point. He never told me that out right, but I knew that's where it was headed. I just wanted to get my money straight. I had a lot of bills and didn't want to mess it up. He turned to pot. Didn't tell me about it at first. He became very depressed. Went on an antidepressant that made it worse. He became detached. One night while he was high, he created a casual encounters ad on Craigslist that he came clean about after days of lying. But proved to me that he never used it. I believed it was his depression. And gave him another chance. Since, things have gotten better. His depression was more stabilized. But after all of these things that happened, I lost trust. I was fighting hard to get it back. Our visits dwindled to nothing. He was adamant. "Move here or we're over. I cannot take long distance with you anymore". He began complaining about how lonely he was. That he needed someone around to love him and to take care of him. And it provoked a "HAUL ASS OUT OF THERE" reaction. I've tried ending it. So has he. But he's a sweet talker and I don't know what to say. I feel like whatever I do say, it won't be justified. He'll blame the break up on me. He'll say I never tried. It's my fault. I don't trust myself going NC and sticking with it. Please, how do I do this?
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