Sanctionne Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Yes I know. What am I doing talking to the ex? Well because I love him. It's as simple as that. He and I were msging each other back & forth on Fri. The convo was going well. I didn't bring up my feelings or the breakup. It was just a normal convo. I had bought him something right before the breakup and never did have a chance to give it to him. I had told him about it before and since the convo was going well I mentioned that I would still like him to have it. He made a jk about what it was. That was fine. He asked if I thought it would be strange to see him, I said that I would be ok, but I could also just mail it to him. He then said "Oh, I thought you would want to see me in person. If you're going to give me something I'd rather it be in person." I replied and said that was fine.... BUT, he never did msg me back. WTF is that? Why even talk to me or say that he wanted to see me just to ignore me? sigh....
Legatus Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Notice he said "I though you want to see me in person", not "I want to see you in person". Seems like he's not really bothered which way he receives a gift, but a glimpse of how you will react during the meeting could be the main reason...
inaya42 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 why not just mail the gift and leave things at that? he did indicate that he'd prefer to receive it in person. and you agreed. are you expecting him to follow up? you are the one with a purpose for meeting -i. e., a gift to give. still, it all sounds a little too complicated for what will likely be an unsatisfying meetup for you. I think you should just mail it.
Author Sanctionne Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 This is EXACTLY what he said: HIM:sure if you dont think seeing me would be to strange. ME:Naw, It's fine... Ive made my peace w it. And I can mail it to u. HIM: oh thats strange i thought you wanted to like see me in person. id rather see u in person if you want to give me something sending it is strange. (yes, he seems to use to word 'strange' a lot in this msg. Anyway. I didn't mention us meeting up, he did. I guess I was just hoping he wanted to see me. :/
JDPT Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 This is the expected outcome when you keep in touch with your ex as much as you love him. I can only suggest to leave things as is, forget about giving him anything, I understand your subconscious keep telling you to move forward and see him but as much as you will like to tell yourself your are past it, this meeting will leave you with new wounds to later heal. Don't use this gift as an excuse to see him, you guys are through and you should focus on moving on with your life, start healing, think about all the great things you have going for yourself and the possibilities now that you are single and free to make healthy and wise decisions. Be strong, I wish you well.
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