MissLY Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Last week I went on a date with this guy. He's not really my type but I'm trying to be more open. Anyway, everything about the date went well. He's very cool, smart and seems into me. Only thing that annoyed me was the fact that he's currently unemployed. He actually told me he was happy about it because he's been working and hustling his whole life so it's nice to get a break. He's also been using this time to travel the world (He just got back from visiting about 8 countries). I'm still hesitating though. I'm not sure whether to give him a chance or not. He seems like a great guy but I definitely think I should keep my options open. Thoughts?
Balzac Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 You're paranoid. Was he self employed or working for someone? There are many people who work very hard and take a break between projects. You reality haven't offered much in the way of facts here.
sillyanswer Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Lots of people are unemployed for lots of reasons. I'd have a problem dating someone who thought being unemployed and living off handouts (from the state, from friends and relatives) was a way of life, but I'd have no problem dating someone who was taking a self-funded break between jobs or who was genuinely looking for work and had realistic chances of finding some. There's much more to life than 9-5, and there are more ways to live a productive, valuable and happy life than traditional employment. So, to answer the thread title: it depends. In your case it sounds like the guy is taking a self-funded break from working and is taking the opportunity of not having a work commitment to explore the world. I don't see anything wrong with that. If that's the only issue then I'm not sure what the problem is... but you also said that he's not your type... 1
Author MissLY Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 Was he self employed or working for someone? Not self-employed, worked a corporate job
ANewBeginning Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 *reality check* You're just dating the guy. There is no ring on your finger or bump on your belly. Enjoy it because thats all it is: dating. If and when you guys do become serious, maybe bring it up although most unemployed but intelligent people will work even if every now and then they need a holiday. Sounds like he has saved enough to earn that break.
truth_seeker Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 If he's the mooch type, then lose him. If he's a hard worker but got laid off, or quit his job because he needed a break, and has money saved up, then keep an open mind.
Maleficent Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Last week I went on a date with this guy. He's not really my type but I'm trying to be more open. Anyway, everything about the date went well. He's very cool, smart and seems into me. Only thing that annoyed me was the fact that he's currently unemployed. He actually told me he was happy about it because he's been working and hustling his whole life so it's nice to get a break. He's also been using this time to travel the world (He just got back from visiting about 8 countries). I'm still hesitating though. I'm not sure whether to give him a chance or not. He seems like a great guy but I definitely think I should keep my options open. Thoughts? nothing wrong with this…My cousin lost his job and toured Canada in a van, got it out of his system and went back to work. If he can travel 8 countries without having a steady income, this guy is definitely resourceful.
carhill Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Thoughts? I can relate since I haven't received a W2 since 1987 and have also traveled a goodly portion of the world over the interceding 26 years. My answer would be, as a couple of other posters opined, it depends. Some questions: Did the guy pay for the date? Does he live locally? During the course of the date, did he talk about any of his passions and interests?; since he's traveled to a number of countries, did he share some anecdotes about his travels? How do things match up? Would you consider him to be a smooth talker or does he come off as sincere and authentic? As another poster mentioned, it's one date. One 'get to know'. IMO, if it went well, I wouldn't have an issue with another 'get to know'. Take each date as a stand-alone interaction and see how it goes. Good luck.
irc333 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I can relate since I haven't received a W2 since 1987 and have also traveled a goodly portion of the world over the interceding 26 years. My answer would be, as a couple of other posters opined, it depends. And you can actually afford the internet as well as a computer? how have you managed all these years?
Ire3 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I wouldn't date someone unemployed. I would expect their lifestyle would be too different from mine. To think of the converse, if I were unemployed, I wouldn't feel valuable enough to date a girl.
carhill Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 And you can actually afford the internet as well as a computer? how have you managed all these years? I fix things and am pretty good at it. There's always something to do. I just haven't been employed since 1987. It's also a great way to avoid women who prefer a high-earning, high status male. There's no easy way to quantify what I earn or my social status. It's unknown and the confused mind says 'no'. I like that. I wouldn't mind dating a lady in similar circumstances as I understand the lifestyle pretty well.
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