Ciel0 Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 (edited) This is my first post! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I've known a barista for awhile, for a year or two. I've always found him attractive but just recently (about a month) my feelings have seemed to bloom into something more than a crush. I can't seem to get him off my mind. My appetite hasn't even been the same because of the butterflies I get when I think of him. Unfortunately, throughout all this time I've never really had a conversation with him. The place he works at is not like StarBucks, there is no lounge area. Even if there is the SLIGHTEST possibility of chatting with him I chicken out! I can act confident but my trembling hands give me away (which makes handing money to him mortifying!). My adrenaline goes through the roof when I know I'll be seeing him. I know very little about him. I have no idea if he is taken, single, straight, or gay. I saw a photo his brother posted of him with a caption along the lines of "Trying not to laugh because I know I'm a ladykiller." I was unsure whether to take that literally or if the humorous aspect was because he wasn't even attracted to women. Filling in the blanks has caused me a great deal of stress. There is no info on his social networking sites that brings any of this to light. (A lot of it is private. I don't have the guts to send him a friend request.) I have a strong impression that he is single; this baffles me because he is nothing less than a 9. It's an established fact the he is quite a handsome guy. He seems quite shy, perhaps that explains it. It's not solely his looks that draw me to him. His calm, reserved, kind personality intrigues me. I don't think I've ever met anyone as serene as him. Due to his reserved personality, understanding what he feels for me (if he feels anything at all) is a difficult task. I remember my mom saying "He's looking at you." around the time when I first saw him. I have noticed him looking at me but that isn't much to go on. I ordered a drink with mystery flavors: I swear he made it as if he knows what I like! I want to know if it's possible to become anything more than a customer. To simply befriend him would be amazing! I know the day will come when he won't work there anymore and my opportunity will be gone. This would hurt me deeply. I just want to get to know him. I also don't want to come off too strong and creep him out! Thank you so much for reading this long post, and I greatly appreciate your much needed advice. Edited August 4, 2013 by Ciel0 Forgot to add that I'm a 21 year old woman!
MrCastle Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Breathe in, breathe out. Start with "hi" the next time you see him. After that, the next time -- "hey again, I've seen you before right?" And then let the small talk begin. 1
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