PJKino Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Not in high school? College? Post-college? Nothing? Have you ever had sex? Kissed a girl? Nope which is why it would be ignorant of me to be blindly confident with women 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Every rejection i get to me is just more proof that women arent attracted to me..If i had just one women into me i knew it would get the ball rolling because id realize there are women out there who are atttracted to me and rejection wouldnt hurt me as much as it does.. Ultimately, I think this is true. I look at SD81, who seems to have finally turned things around for himself. But only after a girl decided she liked him enough to date him. I feel like confidence is like a feedback loop. The more positive feedback the better your confidence gets. To have high confidence without any kind of positive reinforcement or external validation, seems almost narcissistic to me. 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 This is true, but that confidence doesn't have to come from women exclusively. That confidence can come from having a group of friends that want to hang out with you, and that confidence can come from, say taking a course, and having positive feedback from the course leader. Ultimately, you need to have confidence in your own abilities and in yourself first. I suppose. I mean I have friends, and I've pretty much always had friends. I've just had a very difficult time translating confidence in some areas of life (say school, sports, and friends) to confidence around women. It's a focused problem for me, not a general one.
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