Engaged-Break-Rekindle

[gtstyers]

Hello everyone, my ex fiance and me just broke up. She said she needed her space and also that I was not keeping the spark alive and was also revealing personal stories about us and money to her friends. We were both just becoming complacent and weren’t caring as much. We called off our wedding months ago because she just wasn’t quite ready age wise, emotion wise, financially wise, career wise and I was fine with that. I said if your not ready we can wait till you are. Things just kept getting worse with emotions between us and family and friends. Now I moved my stuff out a month before our actual move out date to give her what she wanted which was space. She has said in the past she wants to live on her own to become independent. She has lived with me for the last 2 years out of the 4 we’ve been together and has really relied on me for most things. Now that I’m out trying to give her the space I’ve already reached out to her only twice in the past two week just to say I wasn’t trying to hurt you I only did this because it is what you wanted and I want this to work out for us. And I feel she does as well from what I’ve heard from family and friends too. She wants to start over and rekindle things fresh. She has already been trying to contact me mostly the past 2 weekends about babysitting her dog while she is working. (our dogs were best friends and lived together for a long time). Our dogs have always been independent while we were at work in the past so I don’t think she Needs me to. Now her dog is sad, lonely, not excited like usual and I’m sure my ex is feeling the same way. I have already respectively declined the dogsitting twice because she doesn’t really need me to do it she just wants me to do it for the sake of the dogs happiness. Is this her way of trying to start talking more and she is waiting for me to step up to the plate? Or is that just an invitation for me to be a doormat and “give in” and possibly hurt things in the present/future? Me and her are really great together and were madly in love but have just had a huge bump in the road and we need help on recovering. They say that a break/breakups can help reunite couples for an even better relationship in the future. I’m just hoping she is not going to be too embarrassed when the time comes to reunite and be around friends/family etc. Currently right now I am in a no contact phase for about a few weeks and then I will eventually try and proceed with casual "coffee" dates and then slowly work my way up to "more intimate" dates while showing her my self improvement and new look/ways in the process.What is you folks take on my situation and this dog situation? Thanks!

[Misfortune]

You have a right to refuse to babysit her dog if you don't want to. She left you and she needs to accept that. Give her the "space" she needs; everyone knows how skittish those Extra Terrestrials get when you try to approach them. Show her what life without you is like and just work on yourself. She wants to be independent and live on her own so let her. Better it all happens now than get married and have to go through all that divorce bs within a week of being married.