pau16 Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 My ex and I dated for 6 months, but we broke up because she was leaving out of state for college and I was staying in state. The break up ended good, no problems. We decided to remain friends. I wanted to tell her I loved her for the first time ever that day, but didn't since we broke up. Didn't contact her for a month, then we started talking again. We met up before she left to college and I told her how I much I cared about her and I hope she has fun. We then made out for awhile. Didn't talk to her for a month again because I was trying to be her friend and still wanted to tell her I loved her, so I thought distancing myself would help me get over her. Told her I loved her (4 months after our breakup) she was happy, but confused. I even told her that I'm not asking if she loves me and that I just want her to know how I feel, that's it. She said that she didn't know if she felt the same way. She then deleted me off facebook a week later. Left her alone for a month and texted her saying "hey havent heard from you in awhile, hope everything is ok." She asked who's this, I replied, and she didn't reply. Left her alone for a month and half and wrote her on FB acknowledging that I feel like I scared her saying I love you, and told her some mistakes I made in our relationship and how im working on myself for the better and that I want to be friends again. 10 months later I gave her pink roses and wrote some comedy from her favorite comedian on the card, we started talking again for the entire day just catching up. She added/deleted off FB in one day. My intentions was to talk to her again and be friends. 2 weeks later I texted her saying that I feel that she isnt ready to talk and ill be ready to talk when she's ready, but I dont like games because it's rude. No reply. Do you feel as if was desperate doing all this just to be her friend?
Mrfr Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I hate to be the bearer of bad news but this just isn't worth chasing.
Author pau16 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Well I know that. That's why I've just left her alone and if she wants, she can contact me. I'm just asking for opinions if I looked desperate or not. I felt like I had good intentions, but others may feel different.
Misfortune Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 You left her alone after trying lots of time to no avail. Some people just want to be free for college and usually end relationships around that time. You should've left her alone when she didn't recognize your number and didn't reply after knowing its you. I think it was bit desperate since you were being given clear "no" signs. Why do you want to be her friend so bad? 1
Author pau16 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Misfortune: Ya I should have left her alone, but I guess emotions got to me. Her friendship means a lot to me because we had such a good connection, that's why. I wasn't trying to impede on her wanting to experience college at all. I just wanted her to know how I felt and that's it. I never asked for her back, but I guess me saying I love her just ruined everything. I didn't want that to happen because of our friendship. It sucks because I feel misunderstood. I feel she thought I was trapping her or something. When I told her before I loved her that I just wanted her to know the truth (how I feel). It feels like she just let her emotions take over and didn't listen to a word I said. But at the end of the day, I feel like I lost her for good, but who knows.
Misfortune Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I understand about emotions getting the better of you and such. It happens. Sometimes that's what it takes for us to accept the end and move on. I guessing you guys are young. You have lots of time to mature and get to know what it is you really want in life. You never know what could happen as time goes on. 1
Mrfr Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Well I know that. That's why I've just left her alone and if she wants, she can contact me. I'm just asking for opinions if I looked desperate or not. I felt like I had good intentions, but others may feel different. Sorry, misread. I dunno about desperate maybe overly keen. I certainly wouldn't be beating myself up if I acted the same way.
Author pau16 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Misfortune: Ya we are young. We dated when I was 19 and she was 17. I'll just wait and see what happens. I have finite hope I can get her back one day, but I'm not hanging my head on it. I always have plans before I approach things. I'm glad that she loved the flowers and the quote I gave her, she said it made her happy, I was sweet, and I made her day. I'm happy that I made her day. Good feeling. MrFr: Oh I see and ya I feel I was, but all these problems could have been avoided if she would have been civil and talk with me, but we can't always get what we want and I understand that.
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