The woman of my dreams just dumped me because "she couldn't give me what I want"...

[whites7]

I can't believe I am single again....I had a breakdown about 18 months ago, I managed to get over it. Then I met the most wonderful woman. I knew immediately that she was the one for me. I fell totally in love with her, and her 4 year old daughter. We were always texting, on the phone and had a brilliant time. We even joking talked of getting married, living together. It was perfect.

 

Then yesterday she dumped me. She says "she couldn't give me what I need"....I was devestated. My life has been shattered, I was so f**king happy, and now I can't stand being awake, or sober....the pain is too much. She was so cold and distant, it was like she was someone else.

 

I know it was wrong, but I text'd her, emailed her, dumped all the gifts she had given me round to her house, posted the pictures her daughter drew for me back to her......I can't cope, the only way I got through yesterday was by getting hammerd until I passed out. Now I'm at work, I can't think straight...I had to hide ion the toilet because I couldn't hold back the tears.

 

I am 39, I just don't think I can go through all this again. I thought I had it all, now I have nothing, all my dreams are

[Butchey]

Hang in there man. I know how you feel. The only thing that helps is time.

 

You will have to mourn your loss but you will have to go through the stages which include denial, depression and anger. Talk it out with someone you trust. Don't isolate because you will not progress.

 

It gets easier believe me. I have gone through it twice in the past 5 years.

[whites7]

It was such a shock, I have just emailed her (again...) to apologise for texting and emailing her. But I asked to meet up, I suppose that means I'm in denial then....

 

I just can't see why she changed her mind, only on Thursday it was love and kisses. I mean on Thursday I babysitted for her while she went out, and made love later that night. I don't think I believe it's over, I think she is just panicking.

 

Does anyone have any advice....I don't want to drive her away by bugging her too much, but I don't want to give up on my dream.

 

This is hell....

[Butchey]

You deserve an explanation for her "about face". She owes you that much. But be prepared for the worst.

 

You may want to let her have space as she sorts through all of her issues with you and with life.

You know what they say absence makes the heart grow fonder? She may realize you love her and come back to you, or maybe she has a lie she has been living with. Only she can tell you exactly what is going on. Honesty is the answer.

 

Try to put up a good front even though you may be hurting inside. You need to be strong and act strong.

[DJ_Dork]

Only date single women with kids if you are a single man with kids.

[whites7]

Cheers mate.....I have deleted her from my mobile, all the emails...to try to stop me pestering her but I just want to hear her voice....aaargh. Blubbing at work whilst hiding in the toilet. This has to be the longest day ever......

 

There has to be a better way than getting drunk, but I don't know it.

 

I hear what you say about being strong but I just want to beg like a dog! Not very flattering or attractive I know.

 

It's the overwhelming sense of loss, of fustration, of shatterd dreams. It feels like life is just bleak and bloody pointless. I really though this was it, I still do. It's absolute hell, she is making such a big mistake.

[whites7]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork

Only date single women with kids if you are a single man with kids.

 

Why? I got on well with her kid, I thought it made her love me more that her daughter liked me.

 

It's like I not only lost my GF, but the kid too.