MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I know a guy at work, John....he is in a steady, serious relationship. But he is the biggest flirt/perv with most women around him. But when his gf is present, he of course acts totally different. I got out usually every Monday, with guys from work....and John is always with us. John will strike up conversations with women he never met...and within less than 5 mins....he's found a way to slip in comments about their tits, their ass, sometimes even random sexual remarks about their sex life or such. The thing is...the women love it. I think its rude to act that way, and say things like that...especially to women you just met. Do any of you know guys like this?? Not only is it rude...but he's totally disrespecting his gf with the way he acts when shes not around. He never touches, kisses, or fools around with anyone...he just loves the constant female attention. One night, a few of us were talking to a few women...and they bought some beers for the whole group. Then a little while later...when it was time for us to buy a round....John tells them...we will only buy a round if one of you flashes your tits at my friend Mike. The women laughed, and thoroughly enjoyed this behavior. And one of the ladies did flash the guy a few minutes later. I just dont get how so many women enjoy his antics?? Theres even 2 female friends of his that show up every so often at the bar....his actions with them are even worse. And they know his girlfriend ?!?!? One day his girlfriend was out the same night....and was planning on stopping by....so John went around warning people he knew at the bar...that his gf was gonna be there soon. He didnt come out and say it directly....but in so many words....he was telling everyone to behave while she was there. Then....when she shows up....he has the f'n gall to have the DJ play a song...and dedicate it to "Tracy....the most beautiful women in the bar...from John". Why do guys that put on total f'n shams like that always get the girl?? And guys that live an honest, real life get kicked in the f'n nuts day after day??
letsbeotherpeople Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Discounting the fact he has a girlfriend for the moment, they like him because he's fun, sounds like he has a good sense of humour and doesn't take himself or life so damn seriously. 5
Author MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Discounting the fact he has a girlfriend for the moment, they like him because he's fun, sounds like he has a good sense of humour and doesn't take himself or life so damn seriously. Telling a woman he met less than 1 hr ago....that she needs to flash her tits for a round of beer is fun and a good sense of humor??? 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Telling a woman he met less than 1 hr ago....that she needs to flash her tits for a round of beer is fun and a good sense of humor??? Yup. Women for some reason like that sort of thing. Look at how many women willingly accepted correspondence with Anthony Weiner... 1
letsbeotherpeople Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Telling a woman he met less than 1 hr ago....that she needs to flash her tits for a round of beer is fun and a good sense of humor??? It depends on the woman. Some women respond to that sort of frippery and your friend seems to have the knack of being able to identify them.
BradJacobs Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Telling a woman he met less than 1 hr ago....that she needs to flash her tits for a round of beer is fun and a good sense of humor??? What would you rather him say?
KathyM Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Women like him because he is cocky and confident, and shows interest in them. I doubt most of them realize he is in a relationship, and you can be sure his girlfriend would dump him if she knew what he was doing. My son (single) works at a place where the married guys keep hitting on the female customers and the female employees. It's disgusting that they act that way, and totally disrespect their wives in doing that, but some men think it's harmless fun. If their wives knew that their husbands were behaving like such clods, I'm sure there would be hell to pay, but these men seem to get a kick out of behaving like asses when not in the presence of their wives.
ThaWholigan Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 As much as he's a dick, he has more balls in that situation. Instead of bemoaning why he gets the attention, you should be seeing what leaves you can take out of his book as a single man. Sometimes when you're out you have to have a bit of fun with girls like that. Say something risque - even if it's subtle. Don't be placid - how do you think you guys always complain that women see "80% of men as asexual"? It's not because you look like sh*t, it's because you act like boring nice guys around these girls. (general you) "Typical, I'm plenty funny around them, I have lots of charisma" Yeah well, if that was the case, they wouldn't be gathered around the "perv". Maybe it's time to get a bit raunchy lol. 4
Keenly Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 You or a private investigator could always expose him for the fraud he is being if it bothers you so much. I sometimes get irked by logical inconsistencies as well but I learned to channel it toward fertile pursuits. Expose him ? For what? 2
Author MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 As much as he's a dick, he has more balls in that situation. Instead of bemoaning why he gets the attention, you should be seeing what leaves you can take out of his book as a single man. I'm fine being the man that I am. And dont need such advice or help from you or him.
ThaWholigan Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I'm fine being the man that I am. And dont need such advice or help from you or him. OK sure. Find a woman who appreciates that, maybe in a different social circle.
therhythm Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 What the guy you describes has is a click with women.. he understand them, make them feel comfortable and he can make jokes with them that if you would do them would be seen as offensive... instead of hating him you should take paper and pencil and learn from him
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 What the guy you describes has is a click with women.. he understand them, make them feel comfortable and he can make jokes with them that if you would do them would be seen as offensive... instead of hating him you should take paper and pencil and learn from him I think he should try to make the same jokes and see what happens.
Story Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Mr. Turk, No quality, classy gal with healthy self-esteem and a strong sense of self-worth would ever put up with a guy like John for long. Rest assured. John sounds like a man with deep-rooted insecurities who is in no way worthy of a good woman. May his girlfriend drop his @ss and find a better man who is worthy of her.
man_in_the_box Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Omg who cares, this happens everywhere. Some people just don't care. Does this actually surprise you or something? 1
Author MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Omg who cares, this happens everywhere. Some people just don't care. Does this actually surprise you or something? What surprises me is the amount of women that enjoy it...and revel in it. Being totally contradictory in their behavior.
man_in_the_box Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 People are real suckers for attention and validation - its just that some are better or worse at dealing with it. 1
CrystalCastles Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Mr. Turk, No quality, classy gal with healthy self-esteem and a strong sense of self-worth would ever put up with a guy like John for long. Rest assured. John sounds like a man with deep-rooted insecurities who is in no way worthy of a good woman. May his girlfriend drop his @ss and find a better man who is worthy of her. Agreed. I'm in grad school, and a fellow student likes to ask me about my sex life and flirts a lot with me and just acts completely inappropriate. He's got a steady gf as well. No I don't find that kind of behaviour attractive whatsoever. Maybe some women do, but they might also have bad standards, or maybe they're hoebags.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 My old boss used to behave similarly (without the requests to women to flash their tits). Late 50s, married, short, not really attractive, but most of the women responded positively to it. Maybe they don't see him as a threat and just get humor out of it. I always wondered how he wasn't reported for sexual harrassment, but to each their own. It was actually kind of impressive how easily he'd get women to let their guard down. Didn't matter the age or the marital status, they'd all indulge it.
Quiet Storm Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 It's because he seems confident, and not afraid to actually say what he wants. Women love men that go for what they want. Trepidation, fear, anxiety, apprehensiveness....are all unattractive to women. 2
Author MrTurk Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 It's because he seems confident, and not afraid to actually say what he wants. Women love men that go for what they want. Trepidation, fear, anxiety, apprehensiveness....are all unattractive to women. He has a woman....he doesnt want anything except getting his rocks off saying those things to women. If he was single....and that was his way of picking up women...then it would be different. Still rude in my book, but at least he wouldnt be disrespecting his gf.
Quiet Storm Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 He has a woman....he doesnt want anything except getting his rocks off saying those things to women. If he was single....and that was his way of picking up women...then it would be different. Still rude in my book, but at least he wouldnt be disrespecting his gf. Rude, yes. But not everyone walks around worrying about being rude. He doesn't care what anyone else thinks. For some women, that is an attractive quality. Attraction is not logical. 4
D-Lish Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I have a close guy friend at work who is exactly like your buddy- except he doesn't have a steady gf, he just always has a few on the go and he's always looking for the next one. That's just the way he is. I myself have fun in his presence, because he's a super fun guy to be around. He's never been disrespectful to me because I think I make my boundaries pretty clear and in return, he knows I don't judge him for being a dirty dawg. There are women out there that will just take a guy like this for what he is, enjoy the fun part of him- but never, EVER consider dating him. Then... There are women out there that will swoon over the attention and end up getting raked over the coals. There are also the others that will run in the other direction because they find his behaviour distasteful. The bottom line is that women and men both gravitate towards people that bring a party together. You don't even have to like the person in order to gravitate in their direction- it usually just happens because they are a walking party. Don't make the mistake of believing that all women want to date a guy like this just because they fall into his gravitational pull. Sometimes a person like this is just a lot of fun to be around, and that is all it's about. Nothing wrong with that. 1
MissBee Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 (edited) It depends on the woman. Some women respond to that sort of frippery and your friend seems to have the knack of being able to identify them. Ditto...he clearly knows how to pick women who'll enjoy this kind of thing. If he did it to me or my friends he would be given the stone-cold stare and we'd tell him to get out of our faces. So no...guys like this do not "always" get women while guys who don't do this don't...it really depends on the kind of woman you're talking as save for two friends I have, who I'm iffy about, I know none of my other gfs would respond well to this or be jumping to date such a guy. Edited August 4, 2013 by MissBee 2
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