Worst month of my life

[Helleniic]

Hello guys

 

I've been together with a girl for over 5 years now.

When I started dating her I was her first boyfriend, I gave her the first kiss and

everything else.

 

She was my best friend and she used to tell me how much she loved me every day, we were perfect together and I thought she was my soulmate and I still do.

 

Every summer she goes on vacation to Greece and she talks to me every day saying how much she miss me and that she loves me and things like that.

 

All of a sudden one day she told me she was sick and couldnt eat anything.

I tried to make her feel better but she suddenly stopped answering my texts.

I wrote I love you on her facebook profile and kept sending her messages to make her feel better but she still didnt reply. The same night she finally replied with goodnight baby sweet dreams I love you.

 

The next day when I came home from work I noticed she didnt write me any text messages like she used to do every day and when I got home I logged on to my facebook to check her profile and saw that the message I posted on her wall was gone. I saw she was online so I asked her, why did you delete it and why don't you answer my texts?

 

She replied with: I didn't delete anything, you didnt post anything!

 

Then all of a sudden she says I want a break.

 

I was so confused and heartbroken when she said that and she stopped replying to me and when I wrote her so many times she got mad and said: WHAAAAAAT???

 

Then she said im tired you dont show emotions all you do is complain.

 

I was really sad and told her im sorry don't do this please. But she stopped answering me for 3 days.

 

After 3 days I tried to call her about 30 times before she finally answered my call.

 

What I heard broke my heart, she said:

You didnt show me emotions and you always complained so someone else came and showed me feelings and I kissed him thats why I was sick and couldnt eat.

 

I started crying over the phone I told her please don't do this to me I will forgive everything please just come home and we can fix this please dont do this to me.

 

She was icecold and didn't care at all she said, you had other girls before me and I didn't, I kissed a guy and I felt bad for it but you dont get to tell me what I should do, I do whatever I want, im not ashamed and I dont regret it.

 

After the phone call I was torn apart my heart was crushed I never felt so bad, I trusted her completly she was special she never went to parties, she never drinks or smokes.

 

I trusted this girl with all my heart and that just happend all of a sudden, and now she doesn't even care about me.

 

I was so desperate not to lose her so I talked to her brother about it and he went on to tell her whole family about it.

 

When her father, mother and cousins asked her about it she started texting me saying, ''why the hell did you tell me parents about this you stupid psycho, I lied to get rid of you, I wasnt cheating!!!!''

 

This is basically where I'am right now and I can't get over it, 5 years together everything was perfect until a week ago and now she never wants to see or talk to me again?

 

I feel like crap I cried in the past days more than I ever cried in my whole life.

It feels like my heart and best friend is gone. My soul mate, the woman I was going to marry and spend my life with is gone.

 

I don't know what I should do and why she doesn't feel bad about it and didn't even care about my feelings, She always started to cry when I was sad and now she just doesn't care at all.

 

What can I do to fix this? I'm prepared to forgive her for everything I just want to get her back

[xanitus]

i'll be honest when i read the first half of ur post I knew what was coming : She met another guy and hooked up with him and u quickly got dropped. When I read down thats exactly what happened, and this behaviour in a girl means only one thing.

 

You're in a horrible place right now, but you WILL get over her. One day. You wont feel the same. She cheated on you. You should never get back with a cheater 99% of the time.

 

For now cut contact, grieve in private. Come here for support. 5 years is a long time. It will take a long time to get back to normal after this heartbreak. She sounds like an absolute peice of trash if everything you're saying is true.

[cruelworld]

thats wierd.i know itis hard.harder tahn everything else in your life.but it seems she cheated on you and she doesnt want to tell you this.she is falling in love with another guy absolutly

[Helloprincess]

So sorry you are going throught this. If she cheated on you, you should just stop talking to her. I know it hurts, i know you want her back. But once a cheater, always a cheater. Even if you guys get back together, it won't be the same. Next time she goes to Greece, you are going to feel miserable and scared.

 

I got dumped after 5 years 2 months ago. It is SO hard, you can't imagine. You are not alone. But i promise you are going to start feeling better everyday. One day you are going to wake up and tell yoursefl: i dont deserve this. And you are going to move on. Go out! Have fun! And go no contact. She has to see she made a mistake.

 

Good luck!!

[Helleniic]

Thank you everyone for the support im getting. I've been out with friends and I feel alot better now. It hurts sometimes but now I know that I did not deserve this. I will do my best to stay positive and spend more time with friends and just enjoy life.