Greg25 Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 The decision to have a child is no doubt one of the most important any couple will ever make. I'm not against having children outside of marriage, so long as they are planned and well taken care of by their parents. You should not rush into pregnancy because you feel you have to. Pregnancy and having children is something that will change your life forever. You need to carefully consider what goals you have, and which ones are and aren't compatible with your mutual desire to have children. At this stage things like a master's degree are things you can put on hold if you want to; even if you had a child, that doesn't mean you are permanently barred from the workplace or from higher education. On the other hand, you may want to delay having a child until you have accomplished some things first; it would be handy to write these down and consider which ones you consider 'essential' and discuss them with your partner. The only problem with delaying pregnancy is that biological fertility in women declines quite quickly with age. Women in their mid or late 30's can find it much harder to conceive than younger women. (But I was born when my mother was 36). As for delivery, there are other options such as C-section which don't involve the traditional pains of labour, but that is for you to decide.
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