Louise0203 Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Was in a relationship for 7 months, and then it ended, boyfriend rang me up and stated, he no longer wanted to be with me, did not love me in the same way, due to arguments. etc etc. I acted in the impulsive way of wanting him back, I would come to his call during our break up. We spoke during our break up and I never let him go. After 11 months, we got back together, he stated that he never stopped thinking about me, I was his perfect girl, he never stopped loving me, and from then on we were very happy, spent a lot of time together, however similar bickering started to proceed, nether the less we got on with things and had a good relationship, a good balance of seeing friends, going out without each other, but spending time together. However, after 6 months, the same thing happened, he now does not love me in the same way, he does not want to be with me, however he did not split up with me, he has said that he was very sure we were going to break up, but he wanted 5 days to think about it, in these 5 days he has gone away with his friends, and is celebrating his birthday, he said he would speak to me when he got back but is almost 100 percent sure we are going to break up on the monday, any advice?
Author Louise0203 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 I am a very insecure person, it is something I have to work on, however I am more confused to why someone who supposedly cares about you, would put a time limit and a percentage on your future.
xanitus Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 (edited) This is ur only chance to redeem some control. You need to delete him and NOT CONTACT HIM. He is going to come on monday and end it with you. Why are you waiting around to get dumped?? Do u not have any self worth? Do u not think u are worth something a bit better than someone telling you they are going to dump u but not yet and after 5 days? He clearly has serious issues. You deserve better. Go full no contact and BLOCK HIM so you don't have to hear his rejection. Work on your insecurity. How can he love you when you don't love yourself? You just let him walk all over you and this is what happens. He said those things to you "he loves u blabla" cos he was lonely and he needed some emotional support, not because he actually has any respect or decency for you. Why put up with being treated like a complete dog? If you don't listen to what we're saying, it's you who's going to feel an even greater wreck than if you broke off now. Once you learn to go NO contact, build some self respect and worth.. you will become attractive and he probably will come crawling (but don't bank on that). You've become a doormat. Don't let him walk all over you Edited August 3, 2013 by xanitus
Author Louise0203 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 I know it's the right thing to do, and I have done exactly that, no contact, it was his birthday and I didn't say a thing, I have so much of his clothing and belongings at my house, do I give them to him or drop outside the door, I know he has no respect for me, as it was the roots of all our arguments.
xanitus Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 drop his belongings at his place or leave it with one of his close friends. You reeally dont need to give him any opportunity to hurt you any more. You don't need a verbal rejection. Avoid him.
Author Louise0203 Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 last night he text me saying he missed me, i ignored, at 11 he then said, he was sorry as he was drunk.
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