irc333 Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Well, it appears things are on for this weekend with the woman who as of yet give me her phone #. She said she wanted to go on some kind of Bus Tour of the city of a city in the area. Apparently, you have to call in to reserve ahead of time to have this done, she said she'll pay her own share when she got there....so at least she's contributing. First time I actually got a "request" to do something specific outside of just meeting for drinks or just a lunch, but sounds like she wants to do more than that with me. But, it was kind of awkward scheduling a certain event that requires booking a head of time without having her phone #....like I felt at THAT point it would be necessary if things came up....that she can only get to her dating site email so many times. But at least she knows the time, date and specific place to meet. Surprised I actually went through with this, but if she pulls something at the last minute....I'll vow never to meet a woman without talking to her on the phone first. lol Hope this doesn't wind up being a "Catfish" situation.
Drseussgrrl Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 My bf didn't have my number before we met. He got it that night when he was sure he wanted to see me again, though. And welp here we are. Don't read so much into things.
Author irc333 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 My bf didn't have my number before we met. He got it that night when he was sure he wanted to see me again, though. And welp here we are. Don't read so much into things. Really? I guess you didn't wind up catfishin' him eh? lol
LittleTiger Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 The bus trip idea is more evidence that she's just cautious. She is probably worried about meeting a complete stranger so she's suggested a 'group tour' where she knows she'll be safe. Great idea actually. She's not going to stand you up, but if things go well on the date, just bear in mind that 'extra cautious' is how she is. I get the impression you like people to be a little more chilled out. She'll probably start to relax as you get chatting but if cautious is her personality type, she's unlikely to change. Good luck. Hope you both have fun.
ChessPieceFace Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Maybe it was all a scam by the tour bus company. 4
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Dude do you ever make it to the first date with anyone?
Author irc333 Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Dude do you ever make it to the first date with anyone? Sometimes I do....but occasionally. That's the thing about online dating, "catfishing" can be quite common these days. It's like of like she has to be cautious, but I also have to be wary, too. Usually a person that doesn't give out their number or personal email has something to hide.
MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 First time I actually got a "request" to do something specific outside of just meeting for drinks or just a lunch, but sounds like she wants to do more than that with me. I WISH I could get a woman to do something outside of the stupid/ridiculous/annoying sit and have coffee meeting I truly believe that sitting there like 2 bumps on a log hurts more than it helps. Going somewhere....and having other interaction tremendously helps ease the tension.....rather than "job interviewing" each other for an hour. Hopefully all goes well for you
soccerrprp Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I WISH I could get a woman to do something outside of the stupid/ridiculous/annoying sit and have coffee meeting I truly believe that sitting there like 2 bumps on a log hurts more than it helps. Going somewhere....and having other interaction tremendously helps ease the tension.....rather than "job interviewing" each other for an hour. Hopefully all goes well for you I have NEVER had a sit and coffee meeting. It's always been a full first date with lots of talking... I really think this is b/c I suggest and provide plans for a date, not coffee. In fact, I have dated some women who suggest, on profiles, coffee or a drink, but I ignore that and plan a full date. It's never failed me. 1
MrTurk Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I have NEVER had a sit and coffee meeting. It's always been a full first date with lots of talking... I really think this is b/c I suggest and provide plans for a date, not coffee. In fact, I have dated some women who suggest, on profiles, coffee or a drink, but I ignore that and plan a full date. It's never failed me. I always suggest doing something....but none of them ever want to do anything except sit on their ass and over-analyze me with false assumptions
soccerrprp Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I always suggest doing something....but none of them ever want to do anything except sit on their ass and over-analyze me with false assumptions Hmmmmm. I don't know, perhaps something in your profile gives them some pause? How old are you? Maybe it's an age thing? I'm in my 40s, so date women around my age. Don't know. I had a woman come to a date with questions written on a piece of paper once. It was humorous, but she was genuinely interested in knowing more about me, so kind of cute. It kind of felt like an interview. She was one of the best women I had dated.
mammasita Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I think that's crazy to not have her phone number before a first date....especially one as specific as yours. Did you ask for her number? IMO, a date that specific (I.e. not just meeting for a drink) requires the exchange of numbers. What if either of you are late/lost/sick?
truth_seeker Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 I think the first date should be an activity. Something fun and interactive so it doesn't feel like a date. It lowers people's anxiety levels, allows you to be more relaxed.
Author irc333 Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 I think that's crazy to not have her phone number before a first date....especially one as specific as yours. Did you ask for her number? IMO, a date that specific (I.e. not just meeting for a drink) requires the exchange of numbers. What if either of you are late/lost/sick? Um...she has my phone number....I gave it to her in case such a thing were to happen.
happydate Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Um...she has my phone number....I gave it to her in case such a thing were to happen. The women I dated "always" gave me their phone numbers. The ones somewhat interested in me will give me her cell number. The ones that are truly interested in me will give both her land line home phone number as well as her cell. Then you'll see how fast she picks up the phone. The one that plays the voicemail tag hard to get gal I found to be usually controlling and manipulative in nature. Nothing wrong in that, but I know what to expect if I get laid from insecure women. The ones that pick up the phone almost immediately and even remember your name by your voice are the keepers. They always do, at least for me. It's interesting that when you date a woman who's a GIGS and has a land line. The land line is exclusively for her BF and the cell for her boy toys. Her land line is her BAT phone and that has been my experience. When things are starting to slide and her interest is dropping, I always notice that she screens her land line calls via voicemail even if I'm her BF on the fall and then you have to get her on the cell a lot. But once you restored her interest level back up by ignoring her and calling her bluff, all of a sudden the BAT phone number works perfectly well again. It's a cliche that most women use cell phones as their home phone number. But I found that in most cases, they have a land line. Girls love to talk and talk forever, so land line is cheap for this. I stay away from women if they 1, Ask for your number and don't reciprocate. A dead give away that she is planning to screen you out. 2, Ask you for a business card so she'll call you. Almost always never never! 3, Give you a number and then it turns out to be a number that a dumb dude who gave it to her. She just recycled numbers from people like you. Sometimes I got calls from dudes that call for Michelle. I told them, yeah dude you've been had!
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