Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I've been following this thread and I'm curious too. From his post it seems like he probably got a "not really yes, not really no" response. Good call. Indeterminate I suppose. C'mon 365, tell us.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Sorry I am at work right now. I told her I know she is busy but I'm just gonna ask anyways, and I asked tona coffee sometime. She seemed surprised and said "maybe but I'm really busy". And I know that usually means "no" but in this case it IS true. So I told her that I know she is but I figured I would just throw it out there if she ever wants to. Then she gave me her number and said just text her after next week. What do you guys think?
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Sorry I am at work right now. I told her I know she is busy but I'm just gonna ask anyways, and I asked tona coffee sometime. She seemed surprised and said "maybe but I'm really busy". And I know that usually means "no" but in this case it IS true. So I told her that I know she is but I figured I would just throw it out there if she ever wants to. Then she gave me her number and said just text her after next week. What do you guys think? GOOD JOB MAN! "Maybe, but I'm really busy" might carry a sense of confusion but if she turns around gives you her number then I would assume she was being totally truthful about her being busy. And she asked you to text her, not the other way around - well, either way is great. She must have been pleasantly surprised by this. Well done so far. 2
eddyctv Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Sorry I am at work right now. I told her I know she is busy but I'm just gonna ask anyways, and I asked tona coffee sometime. She seemed surprised and said "maybe but I'm really busy". And I know that usually means "no" but in this case it IS true. So I told her that I know she is but I figured I would just throw it out there if she ever wants to. Then she gave me her number and said just text her after next week. What do you guys think? NICE!!!! I say you text her tonight and say "is it next week yet?" 2
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I say you text her tonight and say "is it next week yet?" LOL, kind of a funny line to drop.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Ok so everyone reads this as being good huh?
eddyctv Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Ok so everyone reads this as being good huh? Yeah but i dont think i'd wait until next week to contact her, thats for sure.
eddyctv Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 You HAVE to be FUNNY with texting her, not desperate or doting... Tell her you had a dream you were drowning and you didn't know who else to talk to about it.
white Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I don't. I've had the busy line enough times. I mean it all depends if she makes the time going forward, but in my experience "I'm really busy" means no time for you ever. Imagine you got asked out. If you liked her would you say "But I'm really busy"? Never in a million years, it's a... negative thing to say.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 You HAVE to be FUNNY with texting her, not desperate or doting... Tell her you had a dream you were drowning and you didn't know who else to talk to about it. You're nuts. You're suggestions are gonna en this thing before it even gets started.
eddyctv Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 You're nuts. You're suggestions are gonna en this thing before it even gets started. Being silly and funny goes a LONG way, unless she's a dud.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Ok so everyone reads this as being good huh? Hell yes. And like I said before many times, its casual and not romantic.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Tell her you had a dream you were drowning and you didn't know who else to talk to about it. Huh?! No way. That's absurd, sorry. He needs to stick with civility and "normal talk" for now. That would burn the bridge right away.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Being silly and funny goes a LONG way, unless she's a dud. Yeah, being funny is important but the dream thing was a little too much.
eddyctv Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Yeah, being funny is important but the dream thing was a little too much. Come on, it's all in the delivery!
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I don't. I've had the busy line enough times. I mean it all depends if she makes the time going forward, but in my experience "I'm really busy" means no time for you ever. Imagine you got asked out. If you liked her would you say "But I'm really busy"? Never in a million years, it's a... negative thing to say. Agreeable to a point. But she said for him to text her. That's not an outright rejection. If she wanted no contact there would be no inclusion of a text.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Come on, it's all in the delivery! Not every gal is the same.
TheGuard13 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Sorry I am at work right now. I told her I know she is busy but I'm just gonna ask anyways, and I asked tona coffee sometime. She seemed surprised and said "maybe but I'm really busy". And I know that usually means "no" but in this case it IS true. So I told her that I know she is but I figured I would just throw it out there if she ever wants to. Then she gave me her number and said just text her after next week. What do you guys think? Texting isn't "call me". She might be interested in being friends, likely isn't exactly sure what to make of you at this point. No one is so busy they can't make time for coffee if they're interested in someone. I think you were a bit too ambiguous in asking her out. Doesn't sound like you asked with a lot of confidence, as you sort of pre-disqualified yourself with "I know you're busy, but"...and then said "coffee sometime" instead of say, "coffee tonight, tomorrow, this weekend", etc. She might be giving you another chance to ask her out in a more interesting way. Some girls are weird that way. I'm not sure I'd even be interested in someone who might go to coffee with me but didn't want to even talk until next week. Text her in a week and ask her with a more specific date and place in mind, and see what happens.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Texting isn't "call me". She might be interested in being friends, likely isn't exactly sure what to make of you at this point. No one is so busy they can't make time for coffee if they're interested in someone. I think you were a bit too ambiguous in asking her out. Doesn't sound like you asked with a lot of confidence, as you sort of pre-disqualified yourself with "I know you're busy, but"...and then said "coffee sometime" instead of say, "coffee tonight, tomorrow, this weekend", etc. She might be giving you another chance to ask her out in a more interesting way. Some girls are weird that way. I'm not sure I'd even be interested in someone who might go to coffee with me but didn't want to even talk until next week. Text her in a week and ask her with a more specific date and place in mind, and see what happens. Well what I had said was "I was going to ask you last night, but figured you are busy so I didn't. But I figured I will just ask you now..." And, a lack of confidence or not, at least I had the balls to ask. That must count for something.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Not every gal is the same. I cannot send private messages on here. Is there anyway I can get your email and ask you something?
Skyraider829 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I cannot send private messages on here. Is there anyway I can get your email and ask you something? Email: [email protected].
Author 365daysgone Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Ok thanks. I sent you an email.
Skyraider829 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Ok thanks. I sent you an email. You did? I haven't received it. Did you get address right?
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