eric19158 Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 Alright long story...My ex and I started dating last january and everything was going good until I heard stuff from her friends that I should stay away because she was a slut. I had a talk with her and after about 2 months of asking i found out that in 3 years she had slept with over 45 guys...she is only 19 now and when she was younger she had sex with guys as old as 29 that she met off of the internet and at parties, she really didnt care who the person was at all. Its really hard hearing all of these stories and it changed my prespective on her completly...I know that people can change and I gave her the benefit of the doubt which ended up hurting me cause she cheated on me with someone from her work 3 months later. We now have been broken up for about 2 months but she still calls a few times a week and tells me she loves me and wants to get back with me. I know that I cant trust her again but I still do love her too so its hard. I just want to be a friend but I know that I can not sit around while she sleeps around with all of these guys, she is meeting people off the internet again and is sleeping around with alot of guys again just like in her past. I am really worried about her health and that she might become pregnant. The weird thing is she doesnt think that there is anything wrong with sleeping with over 40 guys and she is in the mindset that every girl is like that today age. Does anyone have any suggestions for me on what I can do to help her change. I dont think she really enjoys the sex its just that she wants to feel loved, she was verbally (possibly physically) abused by her dad when she was younger and has a really tough family life which probably has something to do with why she sleeps around so much. Is there something wrong with this lifestyle or is this normal now? Should I be worried? It has really got out of control with the people she is trying to get attention from now, I have even heard that she has had sex with an illegal mexican immigrant that works at mcdonalds since we have broken up. The worst part about this all is that for some reason I still cant get over her and at times I want to date her again just so things would go back to how they were...Could someone please give me help on this situation...thanks Eric
innocntlisy1981 Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 hmmmmmm.i know what id like to say bout her but u probably wouldnt wanna hear it!!move on there possibly cant be any fuutre with this girl she has no morals.and u do so go get better.how could u even be intimate with a girl who has had so many makes me sik.sorry!!theres sum1 special for u and its not her!!wish u well
kellyp1 Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 Saying it is "normal" is her making excuses for behavior she knows is wrong. True, society seems to be more sexual than in the past but the number of girls in high school that are waiting to have sex has also increased. It is a personal, individual decision that she is running from by blaming it on normalcy. You know it is wrong and should get away quick. Follow your instincts. She needs help but does not appear ready to hear it and you can't save her. You can only save yourself and your sanity and are worth so much more.
Author eric19158 Posted November 1, 2004 Author Posted November 1, 2004 Thanks for the help...would you suggest that i call her parents or her psychologist and tell them whats going on. They have almost no idea about this life that she is living and lies to everyone about it. Or do you think that i should just end all contact with her and move on? I really care about her and want to see her safe and happy. Thanks Eric
kellyp1 Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 It appears as though she is blaming part of her current behavior on her family so the chance that they can help out will probably not be that great. If you know her psychologist, maybe you can try to talk to him/her and get their take on the situation. Just take care of yourself first though and make sure you don't put yourself in a position to get hurt any further.
head/heels Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE ERIC RUN!!!!!!!!!!
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