Southern Cal Dude Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I signed up for POF out of curiosity. I got quite a few messages but I found it a bit weird. Not the messages themselves, but most girls rant on and on about they don't want messages that say "Hey" or "Hi", yet that's pretty much what I got. One girl even sent a corny message about my cat allergy. Does it really take that much effort to put some thought into a message? Most women really have no game whatsoever.
Mascara Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Pof has got this feature for women where you can just "send a flirt". Which turns out to be just a message saying "Hey there :)". Yes, complete with smiley face. How rubbish is that? I can send my own stupid meaningless message thanks.
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 POF= you get what you don't pay for.. LOL Dating sites you have to take with lots of humor. Some women on the sites have terrific, outgoing personalities while others tend to be more introverted and shy. I don't get too caught up in the first message when I'm active on POF. A lot of women are new on those sites as well. So, they are a bit shy to instigate a conversation. The girl I'm currently dating is from POF. I sent her what I thought was a pretty clever email. I got ignored. So, I moved on to other opportunities. Several days later, this same girl "favorited" me.. I thought, "that's odd" she didn't reply to the email but did that? I sent her a second email which she then responded to. After a few dates, I asked her why she didn't reply to the first email. She said she was intimated and shy. So, there ya go. I agree with ya though. You see an attractive women on there and they have zero personality when you email or text. I hate that! Women w/an outgoing, fun personality are so much more attractive..
NJtoDC Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Perhaps they want you to chase them, be the pursuer. Perhaps to them it is the virtual equivalent of smiling at you from across the room to encourage your attention. I didn't ignore guys who opened with a simple hi, simply because I don't read into the greeting their intentions. They likely are also testing the waters and will speak more when given a positive "Howdy do" in response. I think POF offers women the flirt option now. I like that. I'd also check your 'viewed me' page and see who's checking you out. I personally prefer to let the guy initiate and pursue, and looking at his profile is enough to get their attention if they are interested most of the time.... Anywho, good luck to you! Don't keep 'em on the line too long before reeling them in. You might get yourself a catfish! 1
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Perhaps they want you to chase them, be the pursuer. Perhaps to them it is the virtual equivalent of smiling at you from across the room to encourage your attention. I didn't ignore guys who opened with a simple hi, simply because I don't read into the greeting their intentions. They likely are also testing the waters and will speak more when given a positive "Howdy do" in response. I think POF offers women the flirt option now. I like that. I'd also check your 'viewed me' page and see who's checking you out. I personally prefer to let the guy initiate and pursue, and looking at his profile is enough to get their attention if they are interested most of the time.... Anywho, good luck to you! Don't keep 'em on the line too long before reeling them in. You might get yourself a catfish! FYI, you can block folks from seeing they viewed your profile.
ThaWholigan Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I got a weird assortment of messages - mostly hi's aswell
sillyanswer Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Pof has got this feature for women where you can just "send a flirt". Which turns out to be just a message saying "Hey there :)". Yes, complete with smiley face. How rubbish is that? I can send my own stupid meaningless message thanks. You've been misinformed about the content of that message. (but you're right that it's still rubbish)
Mascara Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I get responses that include that message in the message thread, and that's what it says. Unless it's different for everyone, but that's definitely what mine say.
Author Southern Cal Dude Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 Perhaps they want you to chase them, be the pursuer. Perhaps to them it is the virtual equivalent of smiling at you from across the room to encourage your attention. I didn't ignore guys who opened with a simple hi, simply because I don't read into the greeting their intentions. They likely are also testing the waters and will speak more when given a positive "Howdy do" in response. I think POF offers women the flirt option now. I like that. I'd also check your 'viewed me' page and see who's checking you out. I personally prefer to let the guy initiate and pursue, and looking at his profile is enough to get their attention if they are interested most of the time.... Anywho, good luck to you! Don't keep 'em on the line too long before reeling them in. You might get yourself a catfish! I got way more profile views than messages. Black women were also more forward and even got some views from middle aged women. Never tried POF so just wanted to see what it was like.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Only occasionally do I get the "hi" messages from women on POF. Like probably once or twice a year. Most of the messages I write I'm almost 100% sure aren't even read. Or, most of the profiles on POF are fake...
Author Southern Cal Dude Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 Only occasionally do I get the "hi" messages from women on POF. Like probably once or twice a year. Most of the messages I write I'm almost 100% sure aren't even read. Or, most of the profiles on POF are fake... I think I read those sites added some fake female profiles to bring in more males.
bentleychic Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Tsk, he told you. Out of curiosity. You know, like when a politician is caught in a gay bar. Hey now, don't be knocking gay bars. /totally straight girl that enjoys a guy gay bar every once in a while. One thing's for sure, no one is looking at ME!
white Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 whats pof, apart from sounding like a vanishing spell
NJtoDC Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 FYI, you can block folks from seeing they viewed your profile. True, my point was that I liked to allow guys I viewed to know I viewed them. Other women who like to allow an interested fella to initiate may do the same. Seeing a lady viewed you can be a gentle encouragement, at least that was my experience.
NJtoDC Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I got way more profile views than messages. Black women were also more forward and even got some views from middle aged women. Never tried POF so just wanted to see what it was like. Ya, I think women are more likely to wait for the guy to initiate than be the initiator. I may have seen a number of potentially interesting guys on POF, who would have either gotten a flirt from me or seen that I viewed them. I figured that if they were also interested they would hit me up. I didn't have any interest in starting up a pen pal relationship with a guy who wasn't interested enough to initiate the first email. Exception for me was if I found a guy who's profile I found extra intriguing, then I might initiate. Also, often women get bombarded by a lot of guys, particularly when they create a new account. Weeding through guys who initiate can be time consuming. So to initiate on top of the email traffic a lady often gets can be overwhelming on POF.
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