Mako1986 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 My girlfriend just found out that i cheated 2 years ago. it had been 4 years that we'd been dating when I kissed two girls felt guilty and broke up with her and never told her... we're dating again, and have been for about 7 months, but she found my journal about a month ago, which i confess everything in. At some points i'm talking directly to her, but forgot about it until she found it. I wanted to tell her but made a bunch of excuses to myself. when she confronted me i lied to her. she finally told me that she had been through my journal. now we're on the rocks. she sometimes isn't sure if she wants to stay with me. i get impatient and ask her how she's feeling, she doesn't respond clearly. but she won't break up with me and doesn't want me to leave. i want to be with her and really changed in that time we had apart. i shouldn't have lied. it was the only thing i had to redeem myself with. we still talk and play house, but i want to work on things and she hates talking about it. what do we do? how do we get through this?
JustAReformedGirl Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 My girlfriend just found out that i cheated 2 years ago. it had been 4 years that we'd been dating when I kissed two girls felt guilty and broke up with her and never told her... we're dating again, and have been for about 7 months, but she found my journal about a month ago, which i confess everything in. At some points i'm talking directly to her, but forgot about it until she found it. I wanted to tell her but made a bunch of excuses to myself. when she confronted me i lied to her. she finally told me that she had been through my journal. now we're on the rocks. she sometimes isn't sure if she wants to stay with me. i get impatient and ask her how she's feeling, she doesn't respond clearly. but she won't break up with me and doesn't want me to leave. i want to be with her and really changed in that time we had apart. i shouldn't have lied. it was the only thing i had to redeem myself with. we still talk and play house, but i want to work on things and she hates talking about it. what do we do? how do we get through this? Yeah, lying when confronted with the truth definitely didn't help your case...but you know that, so I wouldn't brow beat you over it, even if I hadn't strayed, myself. In any case, the only thing you can do, at this point anyway, is do what she wants. If she doesn't want to talk about it, don't. Eventually, she may want to broach the subject, but it's difficult to say. She might just need time to deal with the emotions (since this is new to her, even though it happened quite awhile ago for you) and after awhile, may enter a state of denial. You're certain she won't leave? If so, do everything you can to be as accommodating as possible. If/when she feels up to talking about it, be 100% honest about what occurred, and how you feel/felt. Make sure she knows you want to be with her, that you made a grievous error in judgment, and that you're not that person, anymore. I wish you the best of luck.
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