laylay305 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Right now I'm working on some psychological issues and my boyfriend has been pretty patient with me. The other night I started an argument saying I was frustrated he didn't make plans with me this weekend. This is then how the conversation went Him: I just don't understand you sometimes baby, I honestly don't know how anything I have done can give you that impression. I'm trying to be understanding but it's getting really hard to have my feelings for you questioned every time I don't say the perfect thing. I hate feeling like I'm constantly walking on glass in this relationship. Me: When else have I questioned your feelings? Honestly, long distance is hard for me. It sucks that we can't casually see each other throughout the week, but I understand why it happens. When I love and care about someone I want to see them more than once a week. I know right now, with our schedules, it's harder to do. But when I ask about what's happening this weekend, and you give me a vague, non committal response, it gives me the impression you could care less about seeing me. I had no idea that you constantly feel like you're waking on glass, or you think that I'm constantly questioning your feelings Him: I'm sorry but I feel like sh*t right now and I know my bad mood will only make this conversation worse then it should be. I understand your frustrations and I don't want to make it worse by giving you the impression It's not important. You are very important and that's why I'm not going to talk about this and risk saying something dumb that will make it worse. I'm going to get some sleep and we can talk about this tomorrow. Me: Alright. I don't want you to feel like I'm blaming you or saying you're a bad boyfriend, cause obviously you're not. I'm trying not to take it personally, but I felt I needed to communicate how I was feeling, rather than letting it build into resentment. Clearly, my feelings aren't always right, and I've recently realized I do a lot of subconscious sabotaging, which I know isn't fair to you and is something I'm struggling to work through right now. I'll wait to discuss it with you tomorrow, I just don't like going to bed upset, and I want you to know that I love you and I hope you feel better. I didn't hear from him yesterday and at night texted asking if he was up for chatting. This morning he texted "Hey I'm not trying to ignore you but I just need some time to think things over." And I replied "That's alright. I figured you weren't ready to talk yet. I don't want to rush or pressure you" and he said "Thank you for respecting my process " and I said "Not a problem. You mean a lot to me, and I don't want to make things worse, so take the space you need" What do you guys think? What do I do? I love him and want to do whatever I can to fix this. Thanks.
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