HopelessRomantick Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 it's been a year since BU. She BU with me for a few reasons, the most important being it was an LDR and she lost hope of being together. She lives in Asia. I can understand but I also know that in the year we've been BU things have changed and our dreams of being together are physically obtainable now. For the past year she was in an abusive relationship. Physically, emotionally, etc. That is over now 2 weeks and running. Anyway, I was finally at the place where I was ready to tell her I couldn't be her BFF nor maintain communication with her any more. At least I thought I was... we spoke last night for 2 hours about what I thought was going to be closure for me and goodbye to her. she was upset n cried. It doesn't feel right. I don't know how to explain it but it just doesn't feel right. The hopeless romantic sentimental Pisces that I am, I want to get on a plane and go convince her what a big mistake and waste of 2 happy souls that once were.. I don't know. I'm 2nd guessing myself and thinking I never tried to make her see. People search their whole lives, looking for what we shared and sadly they never find it. We found it and she's letting it go. Then I feel bad that she clearly wanted to be BFF's but just couldn't for the past year because of her abusive situation. now I feel I'm abandoning her in her hour of need as she recovers from "him" but I know I cannot be around when she eventually finds another BF. I was expecting to wake up this morning feeling indifferent. But now I want to call her and say I made a mistake to say goodbye. We never fought and we got along like two peas in a pod. Is it best to follow through with the goodbye in the hope she will come back? Or should I try to convince her to try "US" again? I'm in my 40's and plan to live another 50 years. 50 years is a long time to live like this always questioning what-if, always missing someone who's clearly my soul mate and I hers'. It's agonizing.. I feel hopeless. Advice please. Or magic pill to make it all go away?
Sleepwalk Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I guess you did have some previous relationships then,and you do have some experience,considering your age.I was thinking that it might be a first love,or the first longer lasting one.How long did this relationship last? If you really love someone,you shouldn't force things,sometimes,the best way is to let go ( I learn that the hard way.)Don't throw her into a deeper pit then she already is in emotionally,and choose what's best for the both of you,and the most realistical way.Did you plan on meeting her soon?
Author HopelessRomantick Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 I guess you did have some previous relationships then,and you do have some experience,considering your age.I was thinking that it might be a first love,or the first longer lasting one.How long did this relationship last? If you really love someone,you shouldn't force things,sometimes,the best way is to let go ( I learn that the hard way.)Don't throw her into a deeper pit then she already is in emotionally,and choose what's best for the both of you,and the most realistical way.Did you plan on meeting her soon? Sleepwalk, our relationship was 3 years. I was married prior to that for 19. So yes, experience I have. This woman, my xgf is "The One". I just know it, I feel it. She is a strong willed woman and doesn't usually go back on a decision. I will try to lay low and let my goodbye sit as is. I will try... Thanks for replying.
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