Cutting the ties

[JohnM]

It's been two months since I dumped my cheating ex gf. I've been nice and amicable, and given her time to get her stuff, after a prompt a few weeks ago she picked up a decent bulk of her things. There is probably a car load plus her drums to go.

 

She still has a set of keys for this reason, i have rebuffed requests to stay over as a favour to make travel arrangements easier for her. She asked again today if she could stop by to change and shower before work on her way through after some sports.

 

I don't want to be harsh but am feeling like I need to clean things up. How have you all dealt with the final sweeps and asking for keys back etc? I'm.considering this as my response:

 

I don't think its appropriate to be stopping off at the flat for your convenience I'm afraid. It's kind of the case now where its either that you are here to get your things, which is why you still have your keys or you are invited like anyone else I know.

 

Advice and thoughts?

[lavenderlove]

I like it. Good reply. With the shower she is crossing the line.

 

Picking up staff is painful as it is.

 

She may have an other agenda. Having her things over could be an excuse to see you.

[Legatus]

I asked for the keys like five times and my ex wouldn't give it back and still said I was making the fuss about stupid thing! I even packed the damn things and said there's nothing to worry.

 

But then she picked it up and that was best thing it could happen. She could see me cold, calm and reasonable when I told her I don't want to know her because even though it doesn't influence my emotionally I don't like the picture of her with another guy while she was still with me. It was class!

 

But your ex is trying to pull something strange. Maybe she wants to see if you're still hang up on her. Response you proposed is very good, it is crossing the line.

 

If the things she leaves this time can fit into a box - I would ask for keys and tell her you would mail the rest...