Ryan52 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 (edited) My ex and I dated for about 18 months and then she left me for some other guy. As time goes by she sporadically contacts me on her terms only. A few months later I text her. The next day she texts me first telling me something personal she found out by going through my facebook. She unblocked me. Then the following day she texts me again about the break up claiming she had feelings for the other guy during the last few months of our relationship. She then says they have something amazing together. I tell her I don’t need to hear that and then she explodes on me and tells me to never talk to her again and then reblocks my Facebook. She then explodes to a mutual friend about our conversation saying how I don’t get that we won’t work because she is a country girl and I’m a city boy. A month later I text her saying I unblocked her and she can block me is she wants, and she tells me to never contact and harass her again but unblocks my facebook. I tell her I will respect her wishes and will not contact her and if she wants to talk, she can initiate it. Then a week goes by of no contact and she reblocks my Facebook. She has blocked me probably 4-5 times since the breakup. Yet contacts me from time to time. But WHY would she reblock me after a week of nothing (no contact with each other)? It’s like something triggered her to block me after a week. We have NOT been Facebook friends for 5 months and she still blocks me. From my Facebook, my life looks pretty good. I talk about my new job, the vacations I’m going too, pictures of me and our mutual friends partying, me with another girl (basically I look very happy). But WHY would she block me randomly after a week? Edited August 2, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
mammasita Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I think the question here is..... Why haven't you blocked/ignored/deleted her?? If you take this simple step, you wouldn't care or know that she's contacted you or blocked you. Stop being her "toy" and take control. 3
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I guess I don't understand why you are having any contact w/someone who dumped you for another guy? Most people would of blocked her on Facebook the day she dumped you and moved on. There's no point in having any contact with this person, what so ever. Block her on Facebook and stop having contact with her so you can heal and move on to someone else. You having limited contact with her off and on is only screwing with your head and holding you back from getting over her. My ex ended our toxic relationship (she was toxic). She hasn't heard from me since 9 weeks ago nor will she ever again. If she contacts me (which is highly unlikely) she'd get ignored as she's not a good fit for me and wasn't very nice the last few months. 2
Author Ryan52 Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 I'm not blocking her because I'm being the bigger person. I think it says more if I don't block her and do not react to her actions. My life has been pretty good since the break up. But I'm just curious on to why she would randomly block me.
iouaname Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Because she craves the drama. If what she has with this other guy is so amazing, why is she bothering to stir up drama with you? She wants attention and it seems like you are giving it to her. Just stop. Don't speak to her. Don't tell her about your life and don't bother listening when she tells you about hers. 2
mammasita Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I'm not blocking her because I'm being the bigger person. I think it says more if I don't block her and do not react to her actions. My life has been pretty good since the break up. But I'm just curious on to why she would randomly block me. How does that make you the bigger person?.....and who really cares what she thinks at this point. She dumped you, you certainly shouldn't care whether she thinks you're the bigger person or not. 3
soccerrprp Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 I'm not blocking her because I'm being the bigger person. I think it says more if I don't block her and do not react to her actions. My life has been pretty good since the break up. But I'm just curious on to why she would randomly block me. Ryan52, You're not being the "bigger" person here. You're being used, manipulated. "Bigger" or mature people also make smart, wise decisions like removing themselves from bad influences and avoiding, disconnecting oneself from people who manipulate them. Here, your WISER decision would be to block her and move on. You're not being the bigger person here...you're being chumped. 2
Author Ryan52 Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 Ryan52, You're not being the "bigger" person here. You're being used, manipulated. "Bigger" or mature people also make smart, wise decisions like removing themselves from bad influences and avoiding, disconnecting oneself from people who manipulate them. Here, your WISER decision would be to block her and move on. You're not being the bigger person here...you're being chumped. How am I being chumped? I just refuse to play her back and forth games. I'm not contacting her. Obviously something got to her to randomly block me. I don't know why she would care so much to go out of her way to block me when we are not even Facebook friends. If she is so happy with her current bf, why would she bother with blocking me randomly?
soccerrprp Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 How am I being chumped? I just refuse to play her back and forth games. Ryan, I now have a smile on my face with this response. Based on what YOU wrote, YOU ARE playing this back and forth game! Reread your original post! Intentionally or no, she is manipulating and clearly influencing your behavior.
GB25 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 your facebook games are comical... she blocked then i reblocked she unblocked then i blocked..steal run pass shoot sounds like your playing basketball...cmon man 1
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 How am I being chumped? I just refuse to play her back and forth games. I'm not contacting her. Obviously something got to her to randomly block me. I don't know why she would care so much to go out of her way to block me when we are not even Facebook friends. If she is so happy with her current bf, why would she bother with blocking me randomly? Dude.. COME ON! She's playing you like a piano. So, to recap, she dumped you, told you she wants you out of her life AND she has a new guy yet you are being the bigger person by staying a "friend" on Facebook and communicating w/her? Really? Ready your post, this appears to NOT be working out so well for ya, huh? Everyone is telling you the same thing. BLOCK her and disappear from her life. Who gives a flying fart what she thinks. Find your dignity and self esteem and move on and find a better, hotter, sexier girl than this chick was... 2
NoMoreJerks Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 She's playing mind games and you are playing along with her. How are you being the 'bigger' person? And why does it matter what she thinks?!?! She left you for SOMEONE ELSE. I would never have talked to an ex who did that to me. My ex emailed me 8 days ago. He also kept playing the facebook game, removing me from facebook after adding me, etc. I just accepted that he removed me, and blocked him on facebook for good, and have not replied to his email. I don't care if he thinks I am being an evil b*tch. He had it coming after the sh*t he pulled on me. BLOCK HER FOR GOOD and move on with your life, dude. 1
thishatteredsymphony Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 She's playing mind games and you are playing along with her. How are you being the 'bigger' person? And why does it matter what she thinks?!?! She left you for SOMEONE ELSE. I would never have talked to an ex who did that to me. My ex emailed me 8 days ago. He also kept playing the facebook game, removing me from facebook after adding me, etc. I just accepted that he removed me, and blocked him on facebook for good, and have not replied to his email. I don't care if he thinks I am being an evil b*tch. He had it coming after the sh*t he pulled on me. BLOCK HER FOR GOOD and move on with your life, dude. There is so much truth in this bolded statement. Someone who left you for someone else is NOT deserving of your time, in any shape or form. It shouldn't matter what she thinks of you because she clearly had no respect for you in the end. 2
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 She's playing mind games and you are playing along with her. How are you being the 'bigger' person? And why does it matter what she thinks?!?! She left you for SOMEONE ELSE. I would never have talked to an ex who did that to me. My ex emailed me 8 days ago. He also kept playing the facebook game, removing me from facebook after adding me, etc. I just accepted that he removed me, and blocked him on facebook for good, and have not replied to his email. I don't care if he thinks I am being an evil b*tch. He had it coming after the sh*t he pulled on me. BLOCK HER FOR GOOD and move on with your life, dude. Thank you for your HONEST and clear take on us not oweing an ex $hit! I want to vomit in my mouth when I read people who've been dumped and left for others say they couldn't ignore that same ex if they texted them. My ex was a nasty bitch for the last several months of our toxic relationship. I let her end it and she hasn't heard crap from me since, nor will she ever again. I have no respect for her what so ever. If she was broken down on the side of the road, I'd honk so she saw me and then drive right by her. Some ex's don't deserve any respect or courtesy, especially after being *********s to people who loved and cared for them. 3
HuffmanMontana Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Because she craves the drama. If what she has with this other guy is so amazing, why is she bothering to stir up drama with you? She wants attention and it seems like you are giving it to her. Just stop. Don't speak to her. Don't tell her about your life and don't bother listening when she tells you about hers. My ex is on BF #5 in 7 months yet is still active and online trolling dating sites. lol But according to her FB, she is with a guy who makes her happy. Here's the lesson my friend. Normal people will never understand crazy people. It's obvious your EX is still holding on to you and cannot understand why you're not begging for her back. Some people have no comprehension of what it takes to have a healthy relationship. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 Thank you for your HONEST and clear take on us not oweing an ex $hit! I want to vomit in my mouth when I read people who've been dumped and left for others say they couldn't ignore that same ex if they texted them. My ex was a nasty bitch for the last several months of our toxic relationship. I let her end it and she hasn't heard crap from me since, nor will she ever again. I have no respect for her what so ever. If she was broken down on the side of the road, I'd honk so she saw me and then drive right by her. Some ex's don't deserve any respect or courtesy, especially after being *********s to people who loved and cared for them. It took me a while to get to where I am now, though, so maybe OP will realize this in due time, too. I had a major setback back in January when my ex contacted me after 3 weeks of NC on both our parts, after he broke up with me for the 3rd time... I was already having a hard time with my dad being diagnosed with cancer, so I had a weak moment and responded. Of course, he was testing the waters and had regretted breaking up with me and wanted to yo-yo in and out of my life at whim. He asked to get back together. Anyway, we got back together but he never changed. In fact, things got more toxic than they ever were. Toxic is exactly the right word to describe my relationship with my ex, as well... My ex was toxic. He poisoned my life for a year, and left me a shadow of my previous self, until I realized enough was enough and decided not to give him the time of day (this happened only after I found out he had cheated on me, which finally gave me the slap I needed to wake up). Anyway, I will NEVER EVER want to talk to him, EVER AGAIN, in ANY capacity WHATSOEVER. He's as good as dead to me and I only want to remember that 1 year we were together, as a reminder of my stupidity and its consequences and to never repeat that sort of thing again, to have boundaries, and never accept sh*tty treatment or remain in toxic relationships. Relationships shouldn't feel like torture.... I feel like I was into 'relationship BDSM' and our friend the OP here seems like he is into that too. Seriously, cut her loose, for good, OP, and move on. You are NOT doing yourself a favor. You are only giving her material to entertain herself with,
aloneinaz Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 It took me a while to get to where I am now, though, so maybe OP will realize this in due time, too. I had a major setback back in January when my ex contacted me after 3 weeks of NC on both our parts, after he broke up with me for the 3rd time... I was already having a hard time with my dad being diagnosed with cancer, so I had a weak moment and responded. Of course, he was testing the waters and had regretted breaking up with me and wanted to yo-yo in and out of my life at whim. He asked to get back together. Anyway, we got back together but he never changed. In fact, things got more toxic than they ever were. Toxic is exactly the right word to describe my relationship with my ex, as well... My ex was toxic. He poisoned my life for a year, and left me a shadow of my previous self, until I realized enough was enough and decided not to give him the time of day (this happened only after I found out he had cheated on me, which finally gave me the slap I needed to wake up). Anyway, I will NEVER EVER want to talk to him, EVER AGAIN, in ANY capacity WHATSOEVER. He's as good as dead to me and I only want to remember that 1 year we were together, as a reminder of my stupidity and its consequences and to never repeat that sort of thing again, to have boundaries, and never accept sh*tty treatment or remain in toxic relationships. Relationships shouldn't feel like torture.... I feel like I was into 'relationship BDSM' and our friend the OP here seems like he is into that too. Seriously, cut her loose, for good, OP, and move on. You are NOT doing yourself a favor. You are only giving her material to entertain herself with, Wow.. My ex broke up with me three times as well though we broke up 5 times total. She broke up with me the last two times. I stupidly went back for more abuse. The third time she broke up w/me due to me telling her I was sick of her being bitchy and nasty to me when she was tired, stressed or annoyed. How dare I call her out. She said she was done and I said ok, I'm done as well and left. I got my things two days later w/out seeing her and there's been NC since. 9 weeks ago. I've come to the conclusion that she was emotionally unstable. I've started dating after 3 weeks due to knowing I was DONE w/her. I've been seeing someone now exclusively for 4 weeks. Meanwhile, a single buddy see's my ex on two different dating sites each day. Karma baby..
Simon Phoenix Posted August 3, 2013 Posted August 3, 2013 I'm not blocking her because I'm being the bigger person. I think it says more if I don't block her and do not react to her actions. My life has been pretty good since the break up. But I'm just curious on to why she would randomly block me. How are you being the bigger person exactly? And is being the bigger person worth the cyclical annoyance? It's obviously getting to you if you are starting a thread on it.
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