tre101 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 After being apart for 9 months we have started seeing each other again. She hasn't said it yet, but it's clear to me that she's still in love with me. But part of me senses she is unsure about getting back together again officially. She's just being sensible there, I guess. I texted her on Wednesday saying I missed her and we arranged our 3rd date for this weekend. She said she was excited so I was surprised when I texted her today and she replied saying she couldn't make it and had other plans. I've probably brought this on myself because I didn't respond to her text on Wednesday confirming where and when... So I guess not texting her for 2 days and playing hard to get backfired :/ Why do you think she has cancelled? What reasons could there be? I honestly don't think she is interested in any other guy because she told me she hasn't been with anyone else since me, and I believe her on that 100%
Mascara Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Very similar thing happened to me. I agreed to get back with someone, but I was very unsure. I decided I'd play it by ear, but any nonsense and I would be done. He got lazy, started taking a while to respond, so I immediately lost interest and finally was able to move on. Second-chance dating isn't like normal dating. You have to tread much more carefully, because anything you do is viewed in the context of everything that went wrong before. Until you're firmly established again, "hard to get" is just going to make her believe she made the wrong decision. Like with me.
soccerrprp Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 (edited) I've probably brought this on myself because I didn't respond to her text on Wednesday confirming where and when... So I guess not texting her for 2 days and playing hard to get backfired :/ I just don't understand nor have I ever had to resort to such antics. Playing hard-to-get.....ugh. Your refusal to communicate back and playing hard to get was, inconsiderate, selfish and a clear warning sign that you were not being serious and this after you told her that you missed her and already had two dates with her. WHY?! Good luck. I hope you've learned your lesson with this hard-to-get nonsense. Edited August 2, 2013 by soccerrprp 2
StarsOnFire Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 After being apart for 9 months we have started seeing each other again. She hasn't said it yet, but it's clear to me that she's still in love with me. But part of me senses she is unsure about getting back together again officially. She's just being sensible there, I guess. I texted her on Wednesday saying I missed her and we arranged our 3rd date for this weekend. She said she was excited so I was surprised when I texted her today and she replied saying she couldn't make it and had other plans. I've probably brought this on myself because I didn't respond to her text on Wednesday confirming where and when... So I guess not texting her for 2 days and playing hard to get backfired :/ Why do you think she has cancelled? What reasons could there be? I honestly don't think she is interested in any other guy because she told me she hasn't been with anyone else since me, and I believe her on that 100% When you're in a situation like you're in, the last thing you want to do is play games. You should be focusing on making each other feel secure in the relationship, and focus on recreating a bond and reconnecting. Instead you probably made her question getting back together with you when you couldn't be bothered to respond to her confirmation of the date. I wouldn't even do that to a friend. Games are ridiculous, especially when you're in an iffy time in a relationship. 2
soccerrprp Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 When you're in a situation like you're in, the last thing you want to do is play games. You should be focusing on making each other feel secure in the relationship, and focus on recreating a bond and reconnecting. Instead you probably made her question getting back together with you when you couldn't be bothered to respond to her confirmation of the date. I wouldn't even do that to a friend. Games are ridiculous, especially when you're in an iffy time in a relationship. This! We rarely get second chances in life with someone we care about. This was just DUMB Dumb... I hope you get another chance and with that you better seriously ask for forgiveness! 1
alexjames88 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Oh god man you are so stupid. Second chances are the holy grail. Why did you not respond immediately. Most people on this forum would kill for the opportunity you had. 1
Misfortune Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Lots of people on the site would've love to been in your position where you got a second chance. Was the plan really: "I'll get her to like me again by ignoring her when I'm making progress?"
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