any chance of rekindeling

[carltc]

Hi everyone,

 

So here's the story. I had met this girl at work maybe about a year ago. We had seen each other here and there and talked a little. One night I saw her out at the bar, I got her number and she was extremely interested. We went out a couple times and it seemed like things were going well. I will admit, I made a few mistakes in my game along the way but it didn't work. She has a reputation for being a female player, and I have way to big an ego to get played. So after about a month of serious talking texting etc, I pushed her to make a decision. She was calling me boo, very complimental, but

it was so hard to get her to hang out. It was like pulling teeth so It felt like I was getting strung along. She was waffling for about a week whether or not to be exclusive or not and my insecurities got the best of me. But my reasoning at the time was if she doesnt know now, when will she. We had a little bit of a falling out but in the end we both said how great each other was. I said I didn't think we should talk for a little bit and that was about a week ago. This wasn't anything serious but I really did/do like her.

 

I know I will probably get some ridicule and get told to just move on but is there anything I can do to rekindle this? I dont have much of a history with dealing with this type of situation so any advice or guidance will be great. Side note, before this happened I began working the same hours in the same department so in order to not see her, I have to work hard and go out of my way. Im sure soon enough I will be put in a situation where its just her and I. She has always said she loves seeing me and talking to me, but obviously not enough to be exclusive or maybe I just pushed too much.

 

Thanks

[pcplod]

Sometimes, the best thing is to simply do nothing, and just see what happens. Don't force the issue either with her or with yourself. A month, week or day, here or there, is nothing in the overall scheme of things.

 

She could have been messing you around or just being hesitant or maybe you are actually paranoid or maybe you are just a pretty normal person struggling with the imponderables of life who is trying to push up the agenda for themselves too quickly and too hard. Chill out; I believe that is or used to be the parlance. Either way, it would be good advice to yourself. Trying too hard to be too nonchalant is a rather weird process to observe, as an outsider.

[carltc]

I think that has to be the plan, your exactly right. I guess im just hoping right now she'll miss our deep conversations enough to make contact and go from there. If anything is meant to happen it will. I definately did let my fears of being played get to me, I should had a much more relaxed approach and it cost me.