Summer fling or real thing?

[younglove17]

So here's the deal -

 

I met this guy who's 2 years older than me about 3 months ago, and we started off as just friends. It's grown to be romantic and we've gone on several dates (with a 3 week break while I was traveling abroad but he still remained in consistent contact with me). He's never rushed intimate things with me, although we have recently been getting more intimate (on my own accord). Whenever we go out he insists on paying for everything even when I offer, he always holds the door open for me etc. Also, he is always the first to text me good morning every morning, and we call each other "baby" and such. He's incredibly sweet and funny and we share many similar interests and morals.

 

Now for the confusing part.

 

I asked him what he saw us as, and he told me (and has made it increasingly clear) that there is no other girl, and that we are "something" but he's been hurt many times in the past that he is tentative to call me his girlfriend or put it on facebook that we are dating. I am fine with this at the moment, however I worry that there is a separate reason for him not wanting the full commitment:

He goes back to school in a different but nearby state at the end of summer, and as I said I'm younger, so I'm stuck here in high school. I'm worried, therefore, that I'm just a "fling."

 

Also, he wanted to and has already met all of my family and they adore him, yet I've not met any of his family (though I don't think they are as close knit as mine is so it may be harder). I've never been to his house (he has invited me), but then again he has his own car and he also respects that my parents wouldn't want us at his house alone, so it's easier for him to just come over here.

 

I'm truly starting to like this guy, and he's told me the feelings are mutual, but if he's in college, why is he going for a high schooler?

 

We have not slept together or done any oral s*x and he doesn't seem to be pushing it although I know he'd like to do that stuff (and he is not a virgin, he's pretty experienced in that area), he tends to like cuddling a lot too

 

My question is: is it possible he could just drop me by the end of summer because me being a fling was his plan even though he acts like he's more committed?

 

any advice would help, I'm pretty confused!

 

thanks

[amaysngrace]

Why not just wait and see what happens? You're stressing out over nothing really because he obviously likes you and likes hanging out with you and he isn't lying to you to manipulate you into having sex with him.

 

He likes you. A lot.