LoveEK Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 (edited) Hey all I am new to this forum. I really need some helpful advice. So my boyfriend (23) and I (24) have been together off and on now for over a year. Up until a couple weeks ago everything was going great. I was happy, in love... you know the drill. For the past couple months he has had this trip planned with one of his... yes GIRL friends (who has a boyfriend).. to go meet up with some other friends. I couldnt go because I couldnt get the time off work. Well last Wednesday he came over... and I could tell something was off. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing and I asked more then once... because honestly, I am not stupid, I am intuitive to these kinds of things.. but I left it alone... the next day everything was fine until about 5 he stopped texting me. Later I find out hes out with friends... and then the next day he again is not texting me or answering my calls. I then begin to freak out a little as I know some girls would. I began to worry, so I went to his house.. and low and behold hes there. Then he begins to tell me that hes not sure if he can do it anymore.. I start to cry of course, and talk with him. He tells me he thinks its done... I was like if thats the case, then this is the last time, I will never talk to you again, I will never see you again, and same goes for my son... whom he adores... he thought about that for a minute, and then thought it would be better for us to go on a break... I told him Id give him his space on his trip until he got back.. Hes on his trip now... I didn't talk to him for 3 - 4 days... then he drunk dialed me... He went on and on about how much he loves and he wants to come home from the trip and he misses me and wants to cuddle with me... It was an hour long conversation and then I hung up and he calls me again and then again after that. The next day... nothing.. hes ignoring me again. And I havent spoken to him since... I know were on a break and all... I just dont understand why its so easy for him to ignore me, I am scared, I love him, I don't want to lose him. I have been giving him his space as much as I can, every couple days I cave and try to call him in hopes that he will answer.. but nothing. I miss him so much... what should I do? Edited August 2, 2013 by iamalwaysme
Sneaky Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Hey I read your story and I sympathize because this cannot be easy for you. About what you should do, I might not have the best advice but sadly there does not seem to be much you can do. If you tried to call him he will see and hopefully call you back until then I would stop trying to get through for now.
CC12 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 what should I do? I would consider it over and I would move on. I also think you should not put up with that kind of treatment. He clearly wanted to break up with you, but instead of just communicating that to you like an adult, he purposely ignored your calls for a couple of days and put you through needless turmoil and confusion. It also kind of forced you to be the one to take action rather than him, so that he just sat back and just let things happen. It was pretty cowardly of him. And I think he's still being kind of a coward by ignoring you again. Yes, you're on a break so knowing what kind of contact is appropriate is something you're still feeling out, but he called you and drunkenly told you he wanted something with you, then he ignored you again. You deserve a response, even if it's "**** off, please."
Emilia Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Hey all I am new to this forum. I really need some helpful advice. So my boyfriend (23) and I (24) have been together off and on now for over a year. Up until a couple weeks ago everything was going great. I was happy, in love... you know the drill. Welcome to LS Would you mind elaborating on what I have bolded please? Why has it been on/off? What sort of conflicts do you have?
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