Greatshoes13 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 I'm naturally an anxious person and am admittedly pretty neurotic, so the way I feel probably shouldn't come as a surprise to me, but no matter how much I try to push it out of my head, I can't. I'm in my earlier mid twenties and he's in his late twenties, and we've been dating for few months now. We spend a lot of time together - pretty much whenever we're not working. We spend a day or two apart during the week, usually, and text each other a fair amount on those days we're not together. I don't put up a stink about spending time apart, and I actually initiate it a good percentage of the time. I know that for a relationship to be healthy you should be able have lives outside of one other and blah blah blah Because of my work schedule I told him today I'd see him this weekend, which means two days doing our own thing. He's cool with it and enjoys doing his guy stuff with his guy friends, and I'll be working (go me ). Sounds good right? The truth is, every time we spend a day apart (even if I initiate it because I believe it's important for us to have our "me" time) the whole time I secretly miss this crap out of him :S I get anxious, bummed out, I worry and I find myself thinking of him constantly. Is this normal, or am I being needy? I know myself pretty well in relationships, and in the past by this point I'd be seeking out some "me time" without any negative feelings about it, but for whatever reason with this guy I do - we get along wonderfully, we don't argue often and if we do it's a discussion and not a fight (which I love), we have the same sense of humor and have a genuine sense of friendship in our relationship - but these needy feelings are bugging me and I'm afraid they'll slowly begin to rear their ugly heads at some point in the relationship. I don't blow up his phone with I love yous or I miss yous or what-are-you-doings, I just deal deal with the negative feelings and attempt to do the stuff I did before we started dating. Is this normal? How do I cut this crap out? Has anybody/is anybody else feeling this way? I'd like to nip this dependency stuff in the bud.
Addison312 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 What are you worried about while you're not together?
Francop Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 You guys boyfriend/girlfirend yet? I think you really like this person! Im so happy for you....i believe he is in the same page as you! If you guys are not a couple yet...drop more hints so he can ask you out! Im in the same situation as you .......yet she does not give me the hints! lol! Just drop the hints! YOu guys like each other! Good luck
aussietigerwolf Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Me and my bf do the same and neither of us are needy or bored
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