EggyComics Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Hi, Back in January I was posting in the break-up thread. My ex broke up with me after I had gone away to another country to work. After a bit of talk she decided that she would wait for me to return, so we sort of went on break for 8 months, and as my return date drew near, we chatted online extensively and became closer again. I just came back a few days ago, and we went out again. We had fun, we held hands, we kissed. It was like we never went on the break. Then two days ago I went to pick her up for dinner, but she was acting very strangely... asking random questions and her thoughts seem to be wandering about. I was concerned because she was acting very similar to the way she behaved the day she broke up with me. I tried to wave away any negativity by convincing myself she's probably just tired from work. Besides, she waited for me for almost a year, could she really just give it up again after we have finally been reunited? Then last night when telling her good night online, she suddenly asked me if I felt weird at all. I asked her in what way and she said that she feels as if we're not really back together? I am quite alarmed because it seems she's having doubts again. And from the last experience I know that when she's having doubts it probably will mean the end of things for us all over again. I wondered why she would feel that 'we're not really back together'. I think it has something to do with how we just sort of said 'hi' to each other when we met up, and gradually held hands and kissed. There wasn't anything to 'mark' the moment that we got back together, for example me getting down on my knees and asking her to be with me again..etc. What are people's opinions about this? I love my girlfriend and I am really happy to be back with her. Yet at the same time I'm really afraid to be emotional devastated if she decides to end things with me a second time. I don't mention our previous break-up at all because I want it to be a thing of the past, but with this I'm afraid that even if I resolve the crisis this time around, I'll be living in the fear that she may leave me again.
Misfortune Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Just communicate and take things slowly; don't rush it. If she waited then I'm sure she has some feelings for you. No1 waits for someone they don't care about. Talk to her, find out what her doubts are and do your best to reassure her that those things won't come to pass; make her feel safe emotionally and physically. 1
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