fembat Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 OK. I am new here and looking for some advice. I met a guy about a month ago. We have a lot in common and have great chemistry from what I see. We chat daily pretty much online, and see each other twice a week currently. He introduced me to father as his friend - which I am fine with... We have discussed it and although he says he likes me so much he is not ready for anything serious NOW. If he "were" to be ready for anything serious in a few months or whatever he says it would be with me if I still wanted that... So, yes, I know where I stand. The issue is when I thought he said he wanted to take things slowly I didnt think he was talking about us being friends for the months... Now I am not sure what to do... whether to move on now before my feelings become too engaged or just see what happens. It feels like he is calling all the shots right now and I either take it or leave it... but in every other way he is wonderful
Maleficent Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 OK. I am new here and looking for some advice. I met a guy about a month ago. We have a lot in common and have great chemistry from what I see. We chat daily pretty much online, and see each other twice a week currently. He introduced me to father as his friend - which I am fine with... We have discussed it and although he says he likes me so much he is not ready for anything serious NOW. If he "were" to be ready for anything serious in a few months or whatever he says it would be with me if I still wanted that... So, yes, I know where I stand. The issue is when I thought he said he wanted to take things slowly I didnt think he was talking about us being friends for the months... Now I am not sure what to do... whether to move on now before my feelings become too engaged or just see what happens. It feels like he is calling all the shots right now and I either take it or leave it... but in every other way he is wonderful Been there, done that. Run for your life. You'll only get hurt. 3
TheGuard13 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 What do you want? Are you willing to wait and see if he changes his mind, or do you want a committed relationship?
Story Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 fembat, Don't settle for scraps (which is what you're getting). Find a man who truly wants to be with you and makes that very clear to you through his words and actions.
travelbug1996 Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 be friends. keep your panties on and your feelings in check you will be fine. 2
Francop Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 Have him as a friend! but try to forget your feelings for him! It really sucks i know! "Im in a similiar situation"! HEs telling you hes not in the same page as you! He prob wants to be friends with benefits.. only 1
Treasa Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 It sounds like he's being honest with you. I don't see anything shady about his behavior. Like it was said already, keep your panties on, don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, and keep seeing other guys. 1
Author fembat Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 (edited) Thanks for the replies guys. Much appreciated. Sex has been a subject of topic recently but this is something he says he wants to leave until we are committed to a relationship. He basically has indicated that so much in his life is up the in the air at the moment - finances and work situation is pretty bad for him at the moment. So, for the time being, we have both agreed panties stay on. Friends only. Edited August 3, 2013 by fembat 1
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