Feelings changed really fast??? Commitment Phobe??

[digon1631]

I am honestly really confused. I have never ever been in a situation like this. I have been dating this woman for 2.5 months and it has been really amazing. She expressed that she could see herself marrying me and being with me. We told each other we loved each other. She's scared of a relationship because of a previous relationship where her ex didn't allow her to do anything and tried to control her. She left for Cali for 6 months after telling me this. We skyped and talked and she told me she misses me and wants me to meet her parents and grandparents. We both knew that it wasn't the right type to get into a relationship because she was going away to intern for 6 months.

 

We were apart for one month and I went down to visit her in Cali. She all of a sudden told me that her feelings went away, but she still loved me. She says she's not sure what she wants in life and can't be in a commitment because she didn't want to be responsible for anyone. I could tell she was trying to put a barrier against me. We kissed and held hands like normal and I could tell she still had a lot of feelings for me. She didn't want to have sex with me because she said there would be feelings there. We eventually did once.

 

The whole situation was weird for me because I could tell she was stopping herself from doing things with me. We cuddled in bed and were still intimate. I then told her that I couldn't do this anymore and she got really sad and didn't want to see me go. I said I couldn't talk to her but I soon realized that I still wanted to talk to her. So I texted her when I got home and told her that let's be friends.

 

What I don't understand is how her feelings changed so fast. She said there was no one else and I am the only guy ever in her life that she wants her husband to treat her like. Is she scared of commitment? She is unsure what she wants in her life as she is interning for 6 months and coming back to where she lives. She's 23. Is she a commitment phobe? What should I do? Stop texting her? She wants to be friends. I would have given up but I really am in love with her and I just want to understand how it all just went away so fast. I would love to be with her eventually.