berkeley1987 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 so my girlfriend broke up with me because she wasn't happy. since we broke up 2 months ago, we would fight and argue. then i got to the point that i begged, wrote long love letters and pleaded but nothing changed her mind. she says things like "i deserve better than you can offer, i don't see us having a future together." also a lot of hurtful things i rather not talk about. thinking she hates me, i told her i can't be friends with someone i still love, so i walked out on her one night when we were both having dinner and never looked back. she blew up my phone for the next couple of days and i ignored her. she then texted me that she's never been so hurt in her life and is cutting me off from all social networks. she went on to say she really did love me. so now i'm confused on her feelings towards me. i got back in touch with her within the next couple of days and asked her if she still loved me, she said "its possible to learn to love again." but the next day she says "i want to be with someone who will make me happy." back and forth with these mixed signals. we've been fighting up until last week, when we both decided to do complete no contact. she wants us both to heal and learn to forgive me. i really do love this girl.. will this process of no contact, and forgiveness open up a reconciliation in the future??? what are your opinions on her intentions??
Philosoraptor Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Well you upset her balance when you took up for yourself, stopped giving her attention, and took your power back. Stop giving her attention and plumping up her ego. She made a choice, and she has to live with it. NC isn't a tool to get her back, it's a tool to help you heal and move on. Don't sit around hopeful for a reconcilliation in the future, but move on to better and greater things. 1
Sneaky Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 I'm confused what she thinks she has to forgive you for. She broke your heart, you are not obliged to pander to her needs to remain friends after that. No contact is definitely the right thing to do here so you can start to heal and look at the situation objectively. There's nothing you are going to say to change her mind anyway and it's just making the situation worse so take a step back and focus on yourself. I hope things work out for you.
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