broknheart13 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 My break up story can be found in the forums by clicking here. I just left and said good-bye to him in person yesterday and have gone on the road moving 15 hours away (driving distance). Now that we're apart, I have this urge or need to talk to him. And an urge for things to go back to how they were. Even though I know there are many things I didn't enjoy in our relationship, I feel like I have a love addiction. I'm feeling the same classic symptoms as drug withdrawal: Anxiety Restlessness Irritability Poor concentration Depression Social isolation Sweating Racing heart Tightness in the chest -- this feel more like a ball/knot in my chest Tremor Nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea I'm now convinced I'm suffering through an addiction to him. He was my best friend and I spoke with him all the time for 10 years! Now he wants the clichéd time and space and I feel like, if I don't have a fix I'm going to go crazy. I'm fighting through it but he calls to check-up on me to see if I'm safe driving the distance but as soon as that happens I get my fix feel fine (or feel really bad) then feel better for a while until I need a fix of him again. How can I break this addiction so that I can focus on myself and stop feeling this way? I know it's not going to happen easily but I need to know where to start and how to deal with the process. I just don't want to feel like this any more and need to find a way to get over it.
Misfortune Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Research how you would get off of any kind of addictive drug. Talk to people who share your kind of addiction, join support groups and find something else more positive to replace the drug. Find a new hobby, make friends, learn a new skill, etc. you also need to know how to deal with a great loss.
Mrfr Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 I feel EXACTLY the same. It's so so hard! I have all the symptoms you have and have been talked into seeing a doctor. I know time will heal me but I think it's the right thing to do. I don't know you (obviously) but if you want to talk privately feel free and maybe we can feel better knowing we're going through the exact same thing. If that's a bit weird don't worry but thought I'd offer. Look after yourself.
Mrfr Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 I also know what you mean by the fix. We've been texting and it's been civil and that has actually helped. Going to go cold turkey now even though she said we could meet up.
jphcbpa Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 You are not alone. | Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Recommend reading "Facing Love Addiction" Pia Mellody
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