Ex is my neighbor

[broken bird]

My Ex boyfriend of 3 years is also my neighbor. His apartment is literally on the other side of my wall. We were on again/off again. I truly believed we could work things out.

 

His mother,who was ill, recently passed away. He was her caretaker and this took a huge amount of his time/energy. He was always stressed about EVERYTHING. I was quite involved as well, but HAD to distance myself from it at times because it was an unhealthy mother/son relationship. Though I did love his mom.

 

We spent a week together(nothing physical but lots of familiar territory, hanging out, consoling, texts, calls, xo.s etc) I went to the viewing with him and his family (very intimate setting having NO idea he's met someone else) After talks of reconciliation he finally let me know that he just, kinda started seeing someone (one of his mom's caretakers who would be attending the funeral service on a "professional" level) but they'd only been on one date and he really didn't even know what was going on. Said he still loved me but didn't know there was still a chance (except a month earlier he said he was still planning a future with me in mind etc.)

 

After a long talk about everything, I let him know that I still thought we had a chance and that maybe I was delusional, but I really believed from the contact we had had that we would come back together. I also let him know that I was completely unprepared for him to be in a new relationship with someone and could he please just not bring it right into my backyard and on the other side of my wall at this time, that I just wasn't ready for it, yet.

 

Two days later she literally moved in and has never left. I can hear them on the other side of my wall.

 

I am a complete disastrous wreck.

 

They will be moving out and into his deceased mother's house (where he grew up in a very dysfunctional environment) at the end of the month. I have waited all this time to finally start a future with him and now I am literally watching him and literally hearing him start a future with someone else.

 

WTF?

 

How can someone move that fast who couldn't move at all with me?

 

thanks for any thoughts

[Sneaky]

I read your story and I don't have much advice. All I can say is that I sympathize and at least he will move away so you can focus on healing. I hope things improve for you.