journey3 Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 Would appreciate all opinions, but want a guy's perspective. How do you really know if a guy likes you, are there signs from the 1st time to a 1st date? I know this may sound a little lame, but I know there must be some sure ways to know, I mean men are obviously different than women, from thinking to the signs they put out & how they flirt. So how do you know if he just wants to get in your pants or if he really likes you. Any & all male & female opinions welcome. I know if we knew it would be alot easier out there, I'm just looking for different people & how they show someone. Thanks
iceisles Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 Usually the easiest way to tell is by how much attention he gives you. If he talks to you, e-mails, and/or calls quite a bit, then you can be certain he's interested in you. Sometimes with guys, it's tough to initially gauge their true intentions, but you can usually tell if they are just looking for some fun or are genuinely interested in a romantic relationship. For example, if a guy shows signs of wanting to invite you over to his place on a first date, that could be a red flag. Similarly, if he seems "fake" and putting on an act, then I would also be questioning his true intentions. However, if you can sense that a guy really wants to get to know you as a person, then he is probably looking for something more than just a hook-up. This is true whether you are dating or not, though experience will help you filter out the less desirable men before you even get to the dating stage. I've always thought it's easier to tell when a guy likes a girl, just based on the attention factor alone. However, the reverse seems to be a lot tougher to interpret. To this day, I still have no idea if a girl likes me unless she comes out and tells me. My current love interest is very friendly to me and asks lots of questions when we talk, but does that mean she likes me or is just being friendly? I absolutely have no clue. Maybe some women will be kind enough to offer some perspective on both sides of this question.
bluetuesday Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 listen honey. unless they come out and say 'i like you and i want to go out with you', in those words, you can never know for sure. a friend of mine gave me all the right signals. he called and mailed all the time, wanted to hang out, told me he missed me when i wasn't around, was physically affectionate (any excuse to touch my hand, my arm, my back) etc. i was pretty sure he was interested. then a few weeks ago he took things further, kissed me got an erection took his pants off (ok, we were a little drunk) tried to suck my tits and then he tells me he's not interested in a relationship. just sex. some guys are just plain weird. and johnny, if you're reading this, YES I DO MEAN YOU. you freak.
tokyo Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 journey3, I know if a guy is interested in me when he - invites me for dinner - starts touching me - calls very often and just doesn´t want to stop even though there isn´t really much to talk about - wants to do me favors - ask me to go out with him or likes to spend time with me - makes me compliments all the time - looks me in the eyes, longer than usual when we talk - offers to do me favors like giving me a ride, getting tickets, lending me his notes, etc. - remembers my birthday (!) and maybe even gets me a present, in general I think when a guy remembers all those little details about you, he´s interested, I think otherwise they are the most self-absorbed human beings that exist on god´s given earth - email me often - likes talking with me Usually just one signal is not enough, you will have to watch for a couple of them. -- bluetuesday, you seem to be cool My knowledge of men is kind of low, but I think a man who gives off so many signals like your guy is interested in you, he is probably just a bit lazy and doesn´t want to commit, but I bet he´s interested in you, not only sexually. Cut off the contact with him and I would bet he comes back and is not only asking for sex.
SoleMate Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 bluetuesday...I think a man who gives off so many signals like your guy is interested in you...Cut off the contact with him and I would bet he comes back and is not only asking for sex. Tell him to keep his pants on until YOU ask him to take them off next time.
iceisles Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 Perhaps answered easier, you can pretty much tell when a guy/girl isn't interested when they make efforts to avoid you - something that is fairly easy to do and gets the message across. In my opinion, as long as there is some positive interaction, that's a good sign. Then all it really comes down to is finding out exactly what the other person is looking for.
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