Montana 1968 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Stupid me... will I never learn. A few days ago I stupidly contacted my ex via Facebook after having a moment of weakness. We hadn't spoken or contacted each other for two weeks. I left a message last night saying "Hope you're doing ok" !!!!, today I get a reply saying "Hi there.... I'm ok I guess.... I hope you're ok too and I'm so sorry for everything that has happened". This has really set me back. I know that deep down I was hoping he was going to say "Oh honey, I'm so sorry and I've missed you", wishful thinking on my behalf. I feel humiliated now. I'm addicted to him and I need to stop my addiction now. It's over and I need to deal with it. Silly... silly me. X
unexpectedlyhere Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 It's okay, mistakes happen. Someone in recent posts mentioned a book about how to get over your addiction to a person. Get addicted to something healthy!
dontgiveanef Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Best thing right now is to stay away I would say. Don't feel bad and grow out of that bad relationship. Dont be that weak again and keep going Im 100% sure there is someone out there for you.
reddragon588 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Don't beat yourself up, this is normal! You are looking at it the right way. It really is like an addiction! Having been in AA, I can tell you that even those people who have 20 or 30 years of sobriety still have moments of weakness and relapses. Think of this as your moment of weakness/relapse. It is totally ok and normal! It is only negative if you don't learn from it. But it looks like you have learned from it and realize that you need to stay NC and that it really is over. There is a thread on the coping board that you can post on instead of contacting your ex. Maybe next time you feel a moment of weakness, head over there and post there instead! Keep on
OverThinker72 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 It must so hard for you but you've done No Contact before so you know you can do it again. I think we are all tempted to contact our exes, even I have wanted to and I have completely wiped him out of my life. I know he has a profile on Facebook and that's why I removed mine. He ended and I never contacted him again and never will. I couldn't go back to feeling the way I did the first week, I'm thinking of myself and putting myself first. It's hard but you will eventually let go and move on. We all have to believe in our own strength and like other members have suggested, come on here and let your feelings out. Do not give him the satisfaction of your words xx 1
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